Is it normal that my new friend did this?

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So I made a new friend with this alt-rock girl in this rock and metal society at university recently, we both met in a group chat on WhatsApp, we both had traded some interests even liking some of the same bands, she asked me out at first I was extremely excited that she asked me out given the fact that she lives 5 miles away from me.

When I met her at the train station things were being not what I expected:

- As soon as I met her she did not say hi or anything she blankly stared at me.
- She was constantly looking at the floor and not engaging in a conversation much, though she did somewhat engage when I took her out for a meal.
- She expected me to pay for stuff that she wanted but never paid me back when she even promised that we would pay each other back.

When we played games at my place when she left she never said goodbye back to me with zero appreciation.

Maybe I'm exaggerating but I want to know if what she's doing that's considered normal.

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    She is likley shy... and may not know how to proceed or even what is normal.

    I suggest that you be patient with her... show her kindness and caring... and start to get her to talk with you.

    I also suggest that you do that all before suggesting any sexual activities (hugging is OK); unless she initiates them. If that occurs... go at her pace, and take time (multiple dates) if she is unsure about moving past certain points.

    I wish you well with this, and hope the two of you find happiness together long term.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    Id just pay for everything anyway. She sounds shy to me. Its not a good sign if she said she would pay you back and didnt. I always pay for everything anyway but if someone tells me theyre gonna pay me back and dont I know I can never trust them. I pay people back even if it was 25 cents.

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    2 years ago

    If she was just unresponsive then I'd say it might just be because she's socially anxious, but asking/expecting you to pay for stuff is a red flag. She could be taking advantage of you. I wouldn't jump to this conclusion though. She could still be socially anxious, which would explain her aloofness, and then she could just be traditional with regards to dating and expects the man to pay, which would explain that. If that's the case then she could still be alright, but you should explain that you shouldn't have to pay for everything. It'd be awkward, but honesty is a healthier way to go about it than feeling annoyed because you're being treated unfairly.

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  • Curiouskitten444
    2 years ago

    Sounds weird

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