Is it normal that my parents can't accept the fact i'm an atheist?

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I told them this when I was 12 but they never asnwered more than "no you're a Christian". I mean what the fuck I can decide what religion I will follow and they have no right to make somehting I don't want to be. And now it's Christmas when Christians don't eat meat so my whole family eats only other stuff and when they saw me eating a steak they didn't say "it's ok she's not Christian" but they said "it's ok children can eat meat this day". No matter how many times I tell them I don't believe in God they just keep telling me I'm an Christian like they think it will change my mind. IIN?

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NeuroNeptunian

11 years ago

It's normal for a lot of parents that raise their children a certain way. Some raise their kids Christian and trip because they turn out Atheist. I have seen parents that raise their children military style and trip when the kid turns out to be a peace-loving liberal who hates guns.

Parents can be very closed-minded when they believe that what they want you to be is what's best for you.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Oh well they raised me to be homophobic and my uncle wanted me to be racist but here I am gay rights supporter who hates racist people.
  
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  - NeuroNeptunian
    
    11 years ago
    
    If they think that's the right way of doing things then yeah, they'll be upset.
    
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Dot123

11 years ago

It's your life. Fuck em'.

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GhostPower

11 years ago

It's normal, but it doesn't make it right. For example, my mom constantly asks me to attend church with her, even though she knows I'm an atheist. It just comes with the territory.

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Avant-Garde

11 years ago

I know what you're going through. A few years ago, I told my family that I was converting to Buddhism and they didn't take that well at all! (At your parents didn't kick down your door and scream at in your face! Or did they?) I was properly practicing Buddhism and eventually I realized that I couldn't be a proper Buddhist because of my living situation. About a year ago, I converted to something else but I kept it to myself. It saved me from being ridiculed and harassed by them. But I keep getting in these religious arguments with them. I am not a Christian and I don't agree with the majority of what Christians believe in and despite this my family for some reasons thinks I'm still a Christian. I don't see how they could though. Anyone with sense should be able to tell that I'm not a Christian based on what stand I take during religious arguments.... All this in mind, I dread if I get asked whether or not I believe in Jesus and God. I usually lie because I'm scared of the violate reactions... It's a horrible thing not to be able to be yourself.

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- Avant-Garde
  
  11 years ago
  
  Oh my... I left so many words out my comment that it's a miracle that anyone can properly read it.
  
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q25t

11 years ago

What kind of Christians are your parents that they don't eat meat during Christmas? That's Lent, and only on Fridays. And only certain sects of Christians.

But anyway, they're probably in denial.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  I don't really know but a lot of people I know don't eat meat on 24th.
  
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Mr-Myrtos

9 years ago

I am Roman Catholic. I go to church every time I want.
I live in a country were 95% out of 50 million are Catholic and eat meat on Christmas. I never heard that not of not eating meat on Christmas. Nonsense.
If you want to be an atheist is a right that nobody should question because the answer is so obvious. You don't believe and that's it. You deserve to be respected.
Your parents must respect.

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Treehugger29

9 years ago

Your parents are like most parents: They see their child in a specific way. They have envisioned a future for you and a personal developement, they expect you to become like them. You are very unfortunate. I am an atheist too, but my parents dont really care about stuff like that. As long as I happy with who I am.

Furthermore, being an atheist is not like anything someone can describe. You need to figure things out on your own. Dont let anyone tell you something you cant check by tyourself.

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EmmaG122

11 years ago

Respect your parents and in return you might learn something! How do you think we got here? Are you a true atheist because atheism is the worship of the land and all of nature or are you just looking for something to call yourself and using a term which is commonly misused! God loves you and wants to bring you into his kingdom! You need to give you heart to him fully and embrace his power and majesty!

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- Treehugger29
  
  9 years ago
  
  First of all: Piss off, nobody like internet conversions, I know your kind. Yes I just said 'your kind', because people who go to church tend to be the most 'fanatical' about their religion. I have seen this and it grieves me. Youre so full of 'God' that you're not seeing the world realistically. And technically, the word Atheism comes from the Latin "Atheismus", which means: He who is without Theism(theism meaning religion). So, in NO way do we worship anything. Not the land, nor nature. We're not cavemen. How is Atheism commonly misused, what does that even mean? Having different convictions(or none) doesnt automatically mean that you disrespect any person. It just means that you disagree with their ways. I am, in daily life, a person who doesnt usually come out as agressive as this, but this topic sounded quite familiar. Always with the fear of the 'unknown'. We are the product of thousands of years of evolution, from microbes to what we are now. There has never been a need for any intevention, nor will there ever be. We can take care of ourselves. Over time though, we learn to disrespect people like you, who think only of us as rivals, instead of people from who we can learn. If your 'God' wanted the poll creator so badly, then let him speak.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  I'm atheist just because I don't believe in any God...
  
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AbnormallyAwesome

11 years ago

Okay, that is kind of a weird behaviour.
I understand that they can't just accept you choose not to follow the one way that leads to salvation. From their perspective you're taking the road to hell, and if they just said okay to that, they either wouldn't love you or wouldn't take their own religion seriously. But I really think they should talk to you about it. Just denieing it won't help anyone.
Do you sometimes talk about faith in your family? I mean REALLY talk about it?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  We don't realy talk we mention it only when they want me to do something religion related and I have to remind them I'm not religious
  
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  - AbnormallyAwesome
    
    11 years ago
    
    Thats just sad.
    Maybe if they don't want to talk about it, you should try and start that discussion. If they just keep saying you're a Christian and you keep saying your not, you aren't getting anywhere. Do you know why they believe what they believe? I mean it's not just about going to church and praing at the table. It's about the ultimate truth, the sense of life - That should be worth taking a moment and talk about it, right? Maybe they have never questioned their religion and if they have, it should be even more interesting.
    
    I remeber when I had a tough time where I didn't know what I believed at all. But I could talk to my father about it a lot and found out that our ways of thinking were not that different. And I have found my own way
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      None of them actually goes to church except for my uncle because they don't agree with church and people the, they just believe in God and refuse to think I don't. When I try to talk about it seriously they just tell me I should be ashamed and walk away.
      
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Energy

11 years ago

Sadly, it's normal. They're just in denial. And very stubborn and ignorant. Just do your thing....and don't give in. But kill their ignorance with kindness...:)

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bemah

11 years ago

What the fuck! You're parents must be crazy, i feel pretty sorry for you, you know, that they won't accept that your not religious. I guess i got it pretty good. I'm an atheist, my father is agnostic, and my mother is a pretty hard core christian, yet they've accepted that, they're real supportive and I'm grateful for it.

Well anyway, best of luck! I hope you can sort this out, just talk it through with them.

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PuppyPower

11 years ago

I was once an Atheist...It was when I was 11-15.
My parents never accepted myself for who I was. When we would pray at Thanksgiving, I would just sit there and my dad would say "Just pretend to make your mother happy."

I honostly WANT to be a christian, but i'm confused.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Yeah my family prays on Christmas dinner and I just sit there and everyone stares at me like I killed someone.
  
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  - PuppyPower
    
    11 years ago
    
    Hahahaha.
    
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  - Avant-Garde
    
    11 years ago
    
    That's really awkward...
    
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