Is it normal that my teacher flirts with me?

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So I'm in high school and im 17 (almost 18), and one of my teacher's seems to be flirting with me. He's young, but he's married and has a kid. He also has a history, a rumored history, to have had a sexual relationship with a student before. Nobody really knows if it is true or not...

He teaches my favorite class. I'm eventually going to pursue a teaching job similar to his. I've been asking him for advice, I'm doing an independent study with him (meaning he helps me research and put together a project for credit), and we talk A LOT about the subject he teaches. So, obviously we've gotten close.

We email all the time. It usually just starts out with me asking him a question about my notes for class, but it always diverges to personal topics. It's almost like texting for us. And he bought me a book recently. Out of now where. I didn't tell him I thought it was weird. And then he said he was going to buy me more. He always talks about how awesome i am. And how glad he is that we're working together. I say things like that to him too. He talks about me a lot to my other teachers (im close with all my teachers, so they'll randomly bring up with how much he talks about me) It seems like we're flirting, but I just can't tell if he's being nice, or if he has feelings for me.

I do REALLY like him. I have a HUGE crush on him and he is VERY attractive. He's actually my type too... People tell me i'm pretty a lot. And i am a model, so i like to think it isn't too hard for men to find me attractive, but I know my boundaries. He's married and has a kid! But I can't tell if my feelings for him are causing me to read his actions as flirting, when really he is just being nice.

I just want to know if this is normal, or does my teacher want to try to get something more out of our teacher-student relationship. PLEASE HELP.
FEEL FREE TO COMMENT ME SOME ADVICE!!!!!!!! Should i talk to him about it? Or just ignore it!?

Yes, he's just being nice and you're just reading his signals wrong. 10
Yes, but he is flirting, but it's what guys and girls do. 20
No, it's not normal. He has feelings for you. 9
No, it's not normal. He's a creep. Get away from him. 9
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  • pacinoharmon
    10 years ago

    If he has had a sexual relationship with a student in the past, he probably wouldn't still have his job. So I wouldn't think that rumor is true.

    Anyway...I'm not sure what I think of this. Maybe he just really appreciates your dedication, and if you're a nice girl he probably appreciates that too. Even if he compliments you, that doesn't necessarily mean he's flirting. But if he ever says anything really suggestive, or touches you, then he might be hitting on you. Just my opinion.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Just because your teachers being nice to you does not mean he wants to stick his finger in your butthole.

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  • ucipher8
    10 years ago

    Know your boundaries. He should too.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Physically attractive people are treated the better than average people. Also, people subconsciously assign more positive attributes to attractive people than what they deserve.

    From your description, he wasn't flirting. He's enthusiastic about your interest in learning and probably pats himself on the back for being your mentor. If he was actually flirting, he'd hide your interaction from his colleagues.

    You are young and misinterpret his positive attention for sexual interest, most likely because your judgment is clouded by your own feelings.

    Focus on your school work.

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  • White___October
    10 years ago

    It's obvious he is flirting with you, but that doesn't have to mean he's got feelings for you. You say you are attractive and what guy doesn't want to be in the company of a girl like you. But as a teacher I think it's wise for him to leave it to that.

    Don't let the fact that he's married hold you back, you wouldn't want to know the number of married men that are cheating. That's his problem, not yours. But the fact that he is a teacher is more important, that's the reason he should draw a line. But who says flirting like he does is crossing that line? I don't think it is.

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  • gummy_jr
    10 years ago

    People in a committed relationship are forbidden territory. /: think about the harm you'd cause to the family if the wife ever found out.

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  • nawtyalice
    10 years ago

    as a teacher he should know where to draw the line. there are some very serious consequences when a teacher student relationship gets out of hand.
    think of it as the movie the perks of being a wallflower,the relatioship between charlie and his teacher, he just wants you to learn and go far.
    if it gets too over-whelming ask a trusted adult for some advice.
    what i'd do is write about it, write about how things could turn out in your fantasies, that might relieve some of the pressure.
    but what ever happens, dont cross the line

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Suck him off and find out if he likes that sort of thing.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    10 years ago

    Don't stand so close to me.

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