Is it normal that no one seems to know what a lie is?

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Every time someone keeps a secret from someone. Like if a child did not tell there parents they are gay of a friend does not tell her best she does work at that store in the mall Or they got free tickets to a movie and never told you. Yet you never asked?

People get upset and say "you lied to me"? They seem to not understand what the term Lie means. To lie is to give a false truth you know to be wrong? so if you simply hide it than it is a secret? What is wrong with secrets? I mean do parents want to tell kids "Oh guess what we did last night" or "does my kid masturbate"? or "oh my goodness my teenage girl likes boys". I am so shocked!

I mean this fact irritates me for one they are spreading misinformation for further conflicts. Also they are following a standard they would not keep up unless it helps them at a time and point. So they can say" why did you not tell me you are gay"? when you could than ask " hey mom and dad what did I hear from the bedroom last night"? I mean there is things people do not need to know.

If someone wants to keep it a secret let them unless they are hurting someone or raping someone I do not see why this should be such a forced issue? You are not giving a false impression either you are just not making it out in the open like so many seem to prefer. I mean do we not all have a right to privacy?

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  • boogie592
    11 years ago

    OMG!!! I'm sooo glad someone else other than myself felt the same way. A lie is giving false information to a fact that can be proven true, or has some truth IN it. A secret is withholding information for personal protection. When you tell someone something different than what really took place, yes that's a lie. But if you don't tell them what happened or took place, it can be perceived as a lie, when in reality it was a well kept secret. It all depends on the situation and how the indvidual recevies it.

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  • LPrttyktty2791
    11 years ago

    Lying is leading people to believe something that is not true. So in that sense, it can be active or passive, i.e., you tell someone something that isn't true, or you imply things by your silence. So some of the situations you described COULD be classed as lying, which is why your friends seem to think it's ok to say so. And in some cases, they could be justified, but it more sounds to me like they are upset that certain things were kept hidden which they thought they had a right to know. Secrets imply a certain amount of distance in a relationship, and maybe they thought you were closer, and THAT is what they are upset about. Don't get me wrong, everyone has secrets (and boundaries are good; seriously, no one wants information on bowel movements or a daily update on sexual fantasies), but you can tell a lot about the state of a relationship based on what participants choose to reveal. Finding out personal things about a friend that they didn't trust you with can feel like a betrayal, although you are right, they shouldn't call it lying.

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  • BigScaryRooster
    11 years ago

    When I told my friends I was bi, they got pissed off because I never told them. They thought I was lying the whole time when I never even told them what I was into.

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  • Wendell
    11 years ago

    I know what a lie is. No, really I, hehe, I do. No. I SWEAR!

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  • disthing
    11 years ago

    Most ordinary people know the difference between telling a lie and withholding the truth. You must be surrounded by dumb people :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      No they do not. If you do not tell them all the secret they think they deserve to know they get upset and ask why you lied? They do not take the argument " I was simply witholding imformation. they say " No you lied to me"! Its annoying how many people do not understand the concept of what a lie is.

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      • disthing
        11 years ago

        I'm not saying people don't get upset at others for withholding the truth. But in my experience they don't say "Why did you lie to me?!" they say "Why didn't you tell me?!"

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    No.
    Privacy is an old fashioned thing. When you grew up all cameras were on you. You had ample opportunity to speak out.
    In the 'old days' people were belted for being wrong, you are lucky.

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