Is it normal that the guy i'm seeing won't kiss me?

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Is it normal that the guy I'm seeing won't kiss me. He's very touchy, holds my hands, takes me out on dates, texts me every day, calls me every day, gives me gifts, but says he can't do anything physical because once we get started, he won't be able to stop thinking about me and it will distract him from his school work.
But still we go out, flirt and talk and acts jealous if other guys give me attention.
I agreed to wait until we finish school. I've never had this happen before. Is this normal? We're in college, not high school.

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  • kikilizzo
    1 year ago

    If he didnt like kissing it would be.
    If its to avoid getting too attached then that's a massive red flag. He has no intention of commiting then, even if he seems jealous etc. I had a guy best friend who'd get insanely jealous if he heard about other men but he didnt want to date me. I asked him once he said no. Often... If someone sends you mixed signals, that doesn't mean he's playing hard to get it means he's not interested or has commitment issues so basically he wants to keep you around until he feels he might be ready to commit or he likes you but not enough to commit, but he knows you're a great girl so he's keeping you around while waiting if someone more his type who's as great as you shows up... Harsh but people do that all the time. I've done it myself, i'm not perfect. Dating is trying different people out. It can be complicated, and it will get messy if you commit to exclusivity before you're certain of your emotions.
    If he wasn't ready while doing a lot of schoolwork still, he wouldn't have gotten involved in the first place. Being busy with school or work is THE most generic excuse in the book for not commiting... Everyone has used it at some point... You're being naive if you wait around. Don't take for granted he's not seeing others or that he'll be commited when he won't even kiss you to avoid exactly that... You go on living your life or you'll likely regret it later.

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    • roxxyontherox
      1 year ago

      Thank you. I needed this.

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  • Rocknrolla81
    1 year ago

    I don’t think it’s normal. Especially in college but idk people are different

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  • jethro
    1 year ago

    It sounds more like you are in grade school not college.

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  • Firsttaste
    1 year ago

    I would like to give you a small test. The next time you are alone with him suggest that you would like to watch a porn video with him. As you are watching the video make a movie to kiss or rub his leg, If you get no response from him I will say that he is not into girls. But to be sure the next time have a porn video of More men than women and pay attention to his Crotch area, If you notice that he is getting hard you might want to leave him.

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  • einexile
    1 year ago

    I'm getting the impression that you don't want to have sex with him yet. If that's the case, then he is smart not to get physical with you in a way that leaves him aroused and frustrated. If you are sexually active but he won't even kiss you in bed, that's a different story.

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  • RoseIsabella
    1 year ago

    Is he über religious?

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