Is it normal that your family are the ones that put you down?

A lot of families do that, but it’s not supposed to happen. Either you try telling them that’s not ok and work it out, which’s a lot of work, or u keep ur distance for a while. I had it too, kept my distance first and started working on it later on.
Well u can’t move out, I respect different cultures but things where one cuts down ones freedom are things I don’t like. If it’s your culture, but it’s something that’s not worth it, can’t it be broken? Progress and change happen all the Time, they are meant to happen and those things are meant to be broken if one is not well

not 'normal' but I know what youre talking about sometimes your family could be the first people to try and shut down your dream mostly not because thy truly hate you but mostly because youre not conforming to how they want you to be

My family did, but it's not just families. Wish I had advice. Hang in there and stand your ground. No one should have to put up with being treated like shit.

I was in a similar situation until i took a job teaching ESL in Korea. After that I was my own person and didn't rely on family for shit.

It's normal in that it happens a lot. I noticed early on that when I spent long periods of time away from family my self esteem and confidence rose. I wish it weren't the case, but i have very little contact with my family now because of the criticism I would constantly get.

I am sorry about how people treat you. No one deserves it. I cannot say that it is normal.

My advice depends on how far the oppression of women extends, both legally and in the size of your surrounding area, how much free time you have, if you're interested in escaping your situation, if you're fine with being independent and alone, and if you're willing to throw off your "cultural obligations" and your abusive family with them.

Since you have internet, you can probably amass a savings from home by doing freelance work. It doesn't pay that well for unqualified people, the thing about money is that it adds up no matter what if you don't have to spend it.

I've done freelance transcription for https://gotranscript.com/ and it payed $2.33 for transcribing a 5-7 minute audio clip. I also considered learning programming (through free to download books and an app called Sololearn) to pick up small freelance jobs. There are many websites for this.

If you don't already have one, you can set up a bank account online without having to leave home, as long as you have the necessary personal information. Then you could link that to a free and easy to create Paypal account, which you could receive payment through.

If you're allowed to hold a license, use the money to buy a means of transportation (moped, car, motorcycle, whatever).

If you've amassed enough savings to cover rent for at least 6 months, and you're allowed to sign for an apartment or someplace to rent on your own, you could move out and begin looking for steady, local employment.

The reason I'd say to move out on savings and then look for local employment, rather than looking for something while still living with family is so that you don't have to come home to their abuse when you're going against their wishes. This wild plan could get you kicked out as well, I dunno.

Everything until the point of buying transportation should be possible to do under your family's nose (maybe keep an acceptable back-up program open that you can quickly switch to if you work on the computer).

From there I'd consider saving up to leave whatever shitty country/area you're in.

What culture are you? And if it's that bad then I would try and find a man. Why has it taken you so long to find one?

good, no. normal, yes.

my family is, im now depressed and masochistic.

Yes, its common, my family sucks too :(

Cultural obligations?

yeah