Is it normal this is growing up?

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It seems like the way other people talk about growing up, they say things like "When I got a car/went to college/got my first real job."
But in the past few years (I'm an undergrad now), I've noticed another type of growing up in myself, I think. What I mean is, I've come to realize things. No, I'm not trying to sound "profound" or "deep," I'm only trying to explain what I've been realizing.
When I was little (or even in high school), I rarely, if ever, thought about death, aging, disease, suffering, sorrow, anything like that.
But now I've been reading stories, hearing things about these topics...
I feel like I'm waking up . I feel like I'm growing up.
When I was younger, I heard about death and thought "Yeah, well, that's never going to happen to me." Actually, yes, it obviously will. The way it will to everyone.
I used to be in my own little world. When I was very little, of course I wasn't troubled by these things. My whole world was my parents and sibling and our backyard and I don't remember too much but it must've been great.
Then, even in high school, I was in this world of school-home-study (repeat).
It's not like any profound tragedy has occurred to me to make me grow up this way. But somehow I became aware of the reality. And now I feel completely overwhelmed by it. There is no escaping -- this is how the world really is, and I'm having a hard time dealing with it. Seriously, how am I supposed to focus on regular life if my head is filled with thoughts about death, grieving, suffering, etc.?
All I think is why? Why does all this shit exist? I'm kind of at a loss. Where do I even go from here?
And no, I don't spend all day thinking about this (I am a full time student with a job), but whenever I'm not busy, and it's quiet, I dwell on this.

IIN?

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    And it's happened once again
    I'll turn to a friend
    Someone that understands
    And sees through the master plan

    But everybody's gone
    And I've been here for too long
    To face this on my own
    Well, I guess this is growing up

    I suppose the problems of the world do start to seem more like real possibilities the older you get, and that's because they really do become more real possibilities. That doesn't mean your life has to be defined by the amount of shit in it, though. That isn't the whole of reality, only the bad part. Having to confront reality without help can be liberating as well as scary. Even if you fail you can smile and say that the odds were stacked against you all along.

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    Well you can't change the things that are outside your control. Try to focus on things that you can control and your life will be better. It's beneficial to have an awareness of the world and the universe. It's good to be realistic and practical. But don't overwhelm yourself with these thoughts. These are things that have existed before you or I were even born, and they will exist even after we die. Nothing is ever worth pondering on a cosmic scale, just to the extent that it affects people.

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  • andiforoncedonthatehumans
    10 years ago

    Well i feel exactly the same as you.Maybe we re a bit lonely.Try not to think about it too much.I sometimes make this mistake and feel depressed after knowing that someday death will come and then nothing.Makes me also think about what have i done in my life,if i am satisfied but also to never miss any chance so i can live a satisfying life.

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  • tripw7
    10 years ago

    Maybe you need the opposite sex in your life. That normally takes away some of these unnecessary thoughts.

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