Is it normal to absolutely hate my "bestfriend"?

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So ever since I have met her, she has been rude, vindictive, controlling, blaming, and the victim. She treats her family like shit, she spreads rumors of abuse and lies to everyone, she treats teachers like shit, she treats all of the friend group like shit as well. She insults everyone, she yells, she screams, if someone looks at her in the wrong way her family goes to the board of education. They have tried to get teachers fired and when they fail the claim that it is oppression since she is an innocent girl. She insults me on the daily, makes fun of how my dad isn't in the picture, and yells. But god forbid I say something back she cries screams and gets her mommy to yell at me. She has gotten her schedule switched all around because a teacher told her to stop texting in class, for example. She makes me feel worthless and even physically hurts me when she is mad. I am currently on a break from her right now due to (or so she thinks) the fact that I need time to deal with mental health...but this is the reality. I want to ghost her, should I? She would probably get a lawyer -_-

Everyone else hates her too. She got kicked off of our color guard team (flag line) and was mad because she bullies people. And comes crying to me when she was the meanest to me out of anyone on the team! GOD I HATE HER SO MUCH. I fantasize about her mom snapping because of her bitchiness and taking a belt to anywhere on her body she can hit. God i would laugh so hard. Any advice PLEASE.

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    I think your definition of "best friend" is very different to mine (and most people's).

    If you recognize that this girl is nasty, abusive, immature, manipulative, and needy, why the hell do you chose to spend any time at all in her company?

    Is there really nobody else around who has a more positive and healthy approach to life?

    What you say makes it sound like you're a willing victim. Do you have self-esteem issues which mean you feel like you deserve the crap she dumps on you? Do you feel that the best sort of "friend" you deserve is someone as shitty as her?

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    • BambiLandgraab
      6 years ago

      I have other friends that hate her as much as I do. I do have low self-esteem and she definitely doesn't help. Thank you for your insight, I am getting rid of her.

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  • MysticLane
    6 years ago

    I had a friend just like this for 6 years. She was mean, manipulative, controlling, a sociopath and a pathological liar. Everytime I tried to have a conversation with her about it she would act like a victim and say I was the one being mean to her. I tried to distance myself for a while but I ended up just ghosting her and she didn't try contacting me til probably a month later asking why I stopped talking to her... we were "best friends" for 6 years!!
    Then she invited herself to go out with my other friends one night that I couldn't and told them all that I said stuff about them that was completely made up. I ended up just ghosting everyone and not having friends for the last 3 years of high school. I went through really bad depression and started getting really bad anxiety but never got help for it. But overall the time away from everyone was good and definitely needed it to figure out who I was as an independent person cause I never got that chance having her around.

    Anyway I got way too into my personal story but I guess the point is that you should use this as a time to cut her and anyone else toxic out of your life. It can be really hard but don't be as afraid as I was to get help. Eventually when I did get help I got so much better. Just take some time on yourself and make sure you feel confident before getting into another relationship, because coming out of something like that can make you susceptible to other people trying to control you too.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    So stop being friends with her. Ya'll don't sound like friends at all.

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  • BambiLandgraab
    6 years ago

    There is also many many MAAAANNNNYYY more rude things she has done to me over the 3 years I have known her.

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    • Ellenna
      6 years ago

      Then just stay away from her, ignore her ....... simple!

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