Is it normal to accept $1000 for a sexual favor?

I can guarantee you, you know a few girls and probably even a guy who's been paid for a sexual favor.

You need to relax.

The real lesson here is that your best friend cannot be trusted.

Wow, I'd probably jack someone off for a grand too.

The only person who can decide if what you did was morally wrong is YOU. Do you wish you hadn't? Do you feel it compromised your moral standards?

It doesn't seem like it to me. I have never seen anything wrong with two consenting adults making arrangements like this, its an exchange of services and it can benefit both people. Some people have a hard time finding intimacy or its difficult to have the time for relationships, or they have psychological or physical disorders that make it very hard to find a partner. I don't see why they shouldn't be able to pay someone for affection and intimacy.

I suppose my opinion is a bit biased though (I mean whose isnt?) because I myself work as a professional domme but... if it helps, I don't think you did anything wrong, and I believe nobody can judge you but yourself. Live up to what YOU believe is right, not some strangers that want to tear you down ^-^

Sweetie relax, it was between two consenting adults no one was harmed. He got what he wanted you got your money, it was a win win. Although, you got a good deal right there, that's ALOT of money for a mere hand job.

I would have done the same no one is judging

I don't see any reason at all to be so worked up over it. Hel..I'd give a handjob for that kind of money myself and I'm a heterosexual man.
Biggest lesson you learned is who you can't trust.

Would you think prostitution was wrong if people didn't TELL you it was? If people have to teach you or convince you that something is wrong, then is it really wrong? If it doesn't feel wrong to you then it ISN'T!! Don't let other people make you feel bad. It's messed up that you tried to kill yourself over those assholes.

$1000 is a lot of money, especially for a handy, so keep in mind if you were to try to look for another opportunity again it will likely be substantially less money for more work than a HJ. The prostitution industry is pretty awful in general (the industry, not necessarily the job itself) and you have to be careful. Inform yourself about the realities of it and the dangers before getting in over your head. If you're not aware of how it all works, you can end up in a really bad place very quickly.

$1000 for a handy? He must have been really desparate, and you must have been a real looker!

good for you. no harm done.

your hand, your life, now your money

I'd do it lol

$1000 for a handjob?! I'd do it! SUPER easy money!

Wow, your friend is an asshole.
Its not something I personally, would do (hopefully I'd never get desperate enough to) but people have done way worse things for money and I don't see anything inherently wrong with it.

Besides, the Bible is full of prostitutes. I know the religious implications behind it, hence why I don't like to do it, but I don't see sexual favors as that much different from using your hand to make money in other ways, like lay a tile or install spark plugs.

Just be really careful before fully opening your mind to regular "sexual favors". This shit can get dangerous and you have to remember to stay protected. There are some nasty diseases out there and nastier people who don't feel obligated to tell.

Baby girl you are not a whore. Some people will think what you did wasn't okay, others won't care, some people would have even done the same thing. A thousand dollars for a hand job? You didn't have to do anything but use your hand. Might as well have been milking a cow or something.
This doesn't not define you. You are he same person you were before. Your a beautiful soul and this doesn't change that.
Try to get over it hunn, no need to fret so much it effects your whole life.

i really hate girls that pull the "poor college student" card to do things like that as if it gives them reasonable cause.

& get rid of your friend who toldyour secret. That's no friend at all! She prolly wanted that to happen to her & got jealous cause you got that ]G]

I've done it for $300...

id pay you to let me lick your pussy and make u cum while my tounge is deep inside you so i can lick it all up

Why does everyone think she should be tested for STD? It's a fucking HANDJOB, not sex. $1000 for a handjob? The OP must be really hot and he must have been rich.

I don't judge you for it. An easy $1,000. Your friend isn't your real friend, she should have kept it a secret.

I'd give a hand job for $1000. If someone offered $1000 for a HJ im sure my boyfriend would be there to tell me to take it (we're saving for a house, and money = good)

Hell, I'm a straight guy, but I have money issues and I would consider it for $1000... Don't worry about it. Move on and try to be happy that you were able to ease your money woes.

what is the big deal the guy had a wank the got some money for it nobody got hurt every body is happy no harm done

I see nothing wrong with this. I wouldn't do it, but that's me. You're you. Do you, girl. Certainly this is not worth taking your life over.

Consider yourself lucky that he didn't hurt you.

Everyone makes decisions in life that they later regret. But you just have to move forward and learn from them. Some people will tell you that it was wrong to accept the money, and some people will tell you that it was perfectly fine. Regardless, it's clear that you regret doing it.

If you continue to have these feelings though and are suicidal you should definitely see a counselor. That part is not normal.

Would have done the same and not been ashamed about it at al. €1000 is a lot of cash and really nobody got hurt and both parties were helped out. I bet the people that would know about it are bit jaleous as you made a lot of cash for pretty much nothing and you must be a good looker. GO GIRL! dont regret it that would be silly.

Its your body and if you want to rent it to others its your personal business, although no matter how you put it, a sexual favor in exchange for any kind of compensation has a label to it, however as long as you're OK with it, I don't see why should it bother anyone else. Just out of curiosity, would you be able to tell your daddy about this while looking him straight in the eyes?

I think the biggest thing that you should be aware of is that you mentally crossed that line, ask yourself what would you do if he asked you for something more than a hand job for a 1000$, is a BJ too much? and how far would you go if instead of 1000$ he would offer you 5000$, 10000$, or perhaps 20000$. I think one of the things that distinguish between people is that some of them got values, while others have prices, which kind do you believe yourself to be?

well, i'd recommend getting checked for STDs at least.

The fact you said it wasn't intimate though... that suggests it may have been more of a "control game" for him rather than sexual. ... reaffirming his knowledge that he can get whatever he wants.

However... "Does that one act completely define who I am" The real question perhaps should be "Do you want it to?"

I mean hell, I have a sexual past too. I've had one-night stands, cybersex, webcam sex, sex with friends, sex in public. But does it mean I'm a slut? Hell I've been monogamous for over 5 years now, so I say hell no.

The thing to do is... don't dwell on what you did in the past. Don't completely forget it - just use it as a warning to yourself. Kinda like "I didn't like how I felt after doing this... This is my sign to change how I act."

Or in a nutshell, you have to forgive yourself. It's not wrong to feel convicted of your actions, but forgive yourself so that you no longer let it weigh you down.

Or think of it this way. I read a very interesting comment in a Neil Gaiman book once, a comment about religion. ("American Gods")

In the bible, in the New Testament, Christ only told ONE person that he would go to heaven. Not His disciples , not His friends, not even His own mother. The one person was a convicted criminal.

So if even a convicted criminal at the last moment of execution can be told "Truly, I say to you, today you will be with me in paradise (Luke 23:43) " then why would your one act - an act you regret - hold you down for the rest of eternity?

Yes its normal. AND THE BIBLE WAS WRITTEN BY GOD!

Did you enjoy pleasuring this man?

I don't mean to be rude but this all seems to sound like your over reacting A LOT for one little handjob that you got an amazing $1000 for. There are typical hookers that give hundreds of hand jobs to strangers for like $20 or less and have full out sex with hundreds of different guys before they get suicidal and not all of them even do get that way. Sounds like your making a mountain out of a molehill, I mean have you never took a risk in your life before this or caused any trouble and built up some sort emotion scar tissues where this seems tame and justified by most peoples standards, I mean $1000 for 5 min of work. Though I don't want to come off completely insensitive and I can sympathize with what your going through, but you didn't even really do that much of anything, and I realize it's not so much what you did but what happened after words when a couple people found out, they're not proud of everything they did, they've made mistakes to and there's a good chance they would of done the same thing in your position. Just play out an imaginary situation in your head if your friend or others who know try to make you feel bad about it and say, "Yup, I did it and I got $1000 for 5min of work, that kind of money for that little effort doesn't happen to me every day, I don't plan on doing it again but I took a risk and lived my life while I'm alive, lesson learned and if you don't like it go fuck yourself."

Yes most people will sell out for money.

There is nothing immoral in recognising a very good deal. That dude is a fool for giving such a huge amount for a five minute blowjob.

I don't think the majority of us would deny a 5 min sexual favor for that amount of money.
Look at it like this: You got 1000$ for helping a guy to be happy. That is a win win xD

It's not worth beating yourself up about it. Most people have their price. $1000 when you're poor is hard to resist.

The only real mistake you made was telling your friends about it.

Let it go.

You didn't do anything wrong morally but technically you're a whore/prostitute.

But don't feel bad most girls are as you see in these replies.

That is why I'll never get married.

Girls are whores.

If you feel bad about don't do anything like that again.

And for the record I've had women approach me with money for sex and I've always turned them down. And yes some of them were very wealthy and offered a lot of money.

But then again, I'm a highly moral and good person.

Stop beating yourself up, sweetie. And, ignore these asshole religious nuts on this site. A $1000 for a quickie with a stranger? I've had a boring quickie for a lot less! lol This guy offered me $300 to come up to their room and help him give his wife a fantasy for her birthday. We all three drank vodka and talked about fucking. She had a problem with cumming. She did a strip tease and sucked us both. I licked her pussy while her hub ate her ass. You could tell she was getting sooo hot. This was what she wanted: kinky, hot, nasty wonderful sex. I was on Adderall, so I could fuck all night without cumming. He hub got her first while I watched (so hot!); it was over very quickly. Now it was my turn. I asked him twice if he was cool watching me fuck his wife, or did he want to go downstairs. No, he wanted to watch his wife fuck another man. Thankfully, I was lucky enough to be born with a long, thick cock with a huge swollen head. She reached down and guided it into her cum filled pussy. Her hub was very close, watching my cock fill her cunt. Hell, I think it even stretched her a bit. She bit my shoulder and whispered "fuck me hard. I'll do anything you want." Wow. if it wasn't for the drugs, I would have exploded in her right then! I started slow, just slow and deep thrusts. Her hub went to fix a drink and she whispered "put your finger gently up my asshole". mmmm. We started making out and just forgot about her hub being in the room. Finally, I turned her on her side and fucked her from the back. Loved watching her asshole. Her hub said he had a request. he wanted her on top of me, to ride my dick. Ok with me. I rolled over and, I'm not bragging, my cock was sticking up sooo thick and long it looked freaky! The head had turned almost purple and was so big and round. I just laid there while she drained a couple stiff drinks. Before getting on top, she sucked my cock in front of her hub. This really got him crazy with lust. He couldn't believe his little wife had come all the way to Vegas to be impaled by such a cock. he asked me if he could invite another couple over to watch. I asked his wife, but she was sucking my cock like she wanted a load of hot sticky cum in her mouth. She gasped and told him "Whatever you want, I don't care." She got on top and guided my cock into her wonderfully sloppy pussy. she eased down on it, leaned forward to kiss me and whispered "I love the way your cock tasted and I love it in my pussy. My friends are coming to watch, so fuck me extra hard. Do me doggie style in front of them, baby." I told her I'd do anything she wanted, anything. As people were coming in, she asked me "how do I make you cum". I didn't get a chance to answer because I was wondering myself. She got on her knees, and as her drunken friends watched, I drilled her pussy hard. Her hub tapped me on the shoulder and said he wanted a turn. I pulled out and my swollen cock was covered in her pussy juice. I was mind-blowing horny, hard as a rock and swollen up to twice its size. But the Adderall blocks the ability to cum. I just stretched out on the other bed and relaxed. I don't think my new friend wanted her hub in her, but she put up with it. A couple of her older g/f came over and sat on my bed. One, about 50 or so with great ass asked "May I touch you". I said sure. She wrapped both hands around my throbbing cock and just stared at the crack in the head. Her friend started gently playing with my swollen balls. The older one leaned forward and whispered "How long can you last?" I asked why. She smiled and said "I want to be next. Come to my room, just us, and fuck every hole I've got." I just smiled and said we'll see. She asked me what it would take for me to cum. Easy answer. something special and kinky. She said "anything". I had turned on my side to watch the hub stick his pitiful little dick into what I now considered my pussy. She looked at me and rolled her eyes. I really wansn't interested in the older, gorgeous blonde with the big ass. I was dying to get back inside that pussy I had fucked for almost 45 minutes. I wanted her to have a screaming, wonderful orgasm....to cum so hard she'd never forget it. I told the blonde "I'll come over later if you promise me to have a room full of horny women waiting for me. Now, that will make even me cum." She kissed the swollen head and licked a big drop of pre-cum. She smiled and said "Your wish is my command." and they left the room. I asked the hub could I have her back. Just like that. Her pussy and asshole were mine now. he shot his load and lay on top of her, spent. She bluntly told him "get off me now. I want Rick to fuck me so I can cum. I want him in my ass and my mouth." This really got me out-of-my mind horny. I mounted her and slid deep into her cunt. She told me loud enough for hub to hear "I need to suck you, then have you fuck my asshole. I don't care how much it hurts. I want that cock in my ass. This is the best, the most erotic nasty wonderful sex I've ever had. Tear my asshole if you want, baby. Do anything you want. anything, cause I won't to cum under you."

i would have done it too

if in the same situation i might have been a little alarmed. Although if he was cute or something, that could definitely take the edge off a bit. I want to think about it as 1k for a handy is a pretty darn good deal. You could imagine it being similar to caring for the disabled or etc.

As long as you weren't topless or anything, then it gets a litte dirty and well, what would you do for 2? (SERIOUSLY all in good humor!)

Make you a bad person? Maybe, but it for sure makes you a whore. Hope that grand was worth your self respect.

Your not terrible at all. It's not like you do it everyday or even had sex with him. Don't stress any longer it's so not worth it.

I can't help thinking there was more to your attempted suicide than this. But the trouble is that I'm a man and can't really fully understand how women think, how modest they are. Early in my marriage, I told my wife an old guy's joke. I said that if I'd been born a girl, there would have been a prostitute in the K---- family and she wouldn't talk to me for a day after that, so I never said that again.

Regardless of all that, I don't think you did anything differently form what anyone else would have done. After all, it isn't much different from a body massage. You just concentrated on his penis. There was no penetration of any kind. I'm strictly straight and even I'd have done it for $1,000 as long as he didn't try to return the favor.

Wash your hands for 20 seconds with soap and warm water.. Then put the 1000 in your pocket and walk away.. Lol

Its all OK. You needed the money and I'm sure the money went to a good place.

1,000 is a lot of money

Just a handjob? I'd sleep with him for 1,000 depending on what he looked like. And I'm not a whore, I've only been with one person.

He way oVerPaid

$1000 in Atlantic City ain't SHIT!

Lots of women engage in light prostitution just ask any girl who works at a massage parlour. Just dont make it a habit and dont tell anyone about it, its not like you plan on doing it again so just forget it ever happened.

Too many posts to read, I not gay but for $1000, I would do the same, and I am well off. Lady, you will never earn that money again, even as a blood sucking family lawyer. Good on ya love.

Meh.

Since this was your first time, you didn't know how accepting money would make you feel. Now you do. Your bad feelings about the money verify that you are a good person who understands your heart and others. You won't do it again.

You are still a wholesome person.

Not for me to judge, just go and sin no more and put this behind you! Good luck with your future choices in life!

I'd suck a dick for a 1000 dollars..hehe

Oh and it's really nothing to worry about in the first place. Live and learn...

Now back to this burger I go :)

I would do that for a burger.

You had a sexual experiance with a man for money

You are a prostitute, and a whore, be ashamed.

LOL

I don't know.

Nothing wrong with two consenting adults exchanging some cash and sexual favors. I don't care what anyone else says about prostitution and all of that, I don't see a problem with it.

Dont worry so mutch. If u think that was ok - then that was ok.I don't see any harm in doing handjob for 1000$. =)

MOONWOLF

Don't worry you are still very young, you have a life in front of you, the more days pass the more you feel better. some people do these things without feeling sorry but you seem that you are very sensitive and a very good person. so do not do it again do not tell anyone else in your life..later on may be you move out of your surroundings and you will have new people around you..the worst thing is to cheat on a person that you love but you have not done this..so you soul is safe and live happy..if you ever have a boyfriend make sure you won't mention this thing, keep it for yourself.

First of all, i think a lot of people would give a hand job for a grand cash, i would. So you don't need to worry about that,

Secondly, ask the other person if they have told anyone else about your affair, if they have, then everyone knows, so there is no need to be paranoid, if she hasn't, then no-one knows, and there is no need to be paranoid.

Thirdly, attempting suicide was an extremley selfish thing to do, as other people may be dieing from a recent accident that was not self-inflicted or simply dieing naturally, and they would need nurses, not you.

Why would this make you a bad person? You didn't harm anyone by doing this. You don't have to be so hard on yourself.

Now, since you're deeply bothered by this, maybe you should visit a therapist. I think that's the best course of action after a suicide attempt.

So disappointed, I was going to make an awesome comment but then I saw who the op was :(

I would have done the same thing anyways. This act of giving a handjob for $1000, was simply so you can earn money. That's why you did it. You didn't do it because you wanted to give him a handjob. You did it cause you needed the money, so it doesn't make you a whore.

First of all, fuck your friend! That is a shitty friend if she's going to go around telling people this. Second of all nobody is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. What happened, happened, and beating yourself up won't make it any better. Just forgive yourself and move on. Fuck what anyone says. They would have probably gone all the way with him for free. Just remember, that nobody is perfect. People judging you for something have done something horrible in their past that can be judged as well, so you shouldn't let them get to you.

To be honest, if a guy does it to a woman( finger, lick, fuck her) for money, so its a college guy and a cougar/Milf people might praise him. But in the case the situation reverts the parties involved, then people think she is a slut. I don't think you are a bad person, but it bothers you which is why you might ask. Just remember to stay away from future propositions, and avoid going down further into that path.

I believe money in exchange for sexual acts/favors is historically known as prostitution; which is quite normal in many cities throughout the world.

the funny yall bashing against the bible when Jesus him self said who without sin throw the first stone when defending Mary Magdalene a prostitute... and girlfriend where im from girls would be proud to get a 1000 for a handjob

If you didn't have a boyfriend and were okay with doing it, there's NOTHING wrong with what you did. Everything was 100% consentual and you shouldn't feel guilty because of social taboo. If you feel guilty make sure you feel guilty for personal reasons and not because the world says you should.

This seems completely normal and you got a good deal out of it.
What seems abnormal to me is the guilt and shame you are describing. Theres nothing morally wrong with giving sexual favors for money. Society just brainwashes you to think that.

That is a lot of money. I am a student so I probably would have accepted it too. That amount of money could help a lot.
You seen to be blowing it all out of proportion. Yes, it's not great that a few people know about it now but fuck it. Stop caring about what they think. Life is too short so put it behind you and ignore it. You didn't even have sex with this man, it could of been worse for you. What you have done really isn't bad. But I think you really need help. Try a therapist. It will be extremely hard to tell them about the situation but it is also extremely confidential. They will help you feel better.

I fully agree with what you did. Taking money for something like that can only negatively effect you. Nothing bad happened to the man, nor to anyone judging you. So, if you can handel what you did then stand up for your self.

seems to me you are overreacting a little dont you think :/ I mean I dont think you should have told your friend but now that you already I would calm down and accept the fact whats done is done killing yourself is not going to change that and furthermore if your friend went off and told everyone she doesnt seem like a very good friend to hang around with just saying

Jesus, stop being so paranoid, you did someone a hand job, and got 1000$. What is so bad about that, it doesnt make you a bad person. And what if others know about your hand job thing ? Does it matter, I mean really, does it ? To some people it takes loads of heavy work to get 1000$, you got 1000$ in 5 minutes. You should be happy and not sad. Oh and also you are crazy if you wanted to do a suicide FOR A HAND JOB, jesus if your family member or someone you love would die and you coudnt live with it, I would understand why you want to end your life, but for a hand job ? Oh come on girl put your shit together.

Really you tried to kill yourself over something like this? Fuck it was a thousand dollars for a hand job. I've never hored myself out in anyway but if someone offered me a thousand dollars for a handjob my husband would be the one telling me to do it lol. Dont sweat it, people do stupid things quit letting the guilt eat you up, it's not like you ate someone lol and if anyone has anything to say about it tell them to fuck off it's none of their business anyways. But most the people i know have done stupider things for less haha so again dont sweat it..its not that bad

As far as I can tell, you don't find anything wrong with it, so don't feel so bad. There's really nothing morally wrong with what you did except through the eyes of religion. There is something wrong with your best friend if she blabbed about something that you're obviously having a hard time with.

On a different topic, why exactly were you, a struggling college student, at a casino in the Atlantic City Hilton?

Wow I don't think I'd have dared to do that, but wow you're so lucky hahah

If it ever happens again, just don't tell anybody ;)

I wish I could make 4 grand an hour pulling pud.

Pull yourself together you silly twat. Suicide over this shit? Seriously?

Do you have any idea how much sexual slavery there is in the world? How many people are forced into having sex against their will day after day, year after year?

You're fucking pathetic.

Well by the sounds of how you felt after you had done the deed (like you had a terrible secret that eventually lead to thoughts of suicide when that secret was spread), it seems like you did something out of character for the allure of money. It's not something that is inherently wrong but maybe you're just not the kind of woman who can deal with sexual situations with strangers.
I have known women who thought they could be sexually open and enjoy themselves, only to feel regret over it later. It's not for everyone, so maybe in that sense you feel regret?
Just my personal guess on the matter.