Is it normal to always think this irrationally?

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I am losing my mind here.I am so paranoid about everything all the time.Its gotten to the point that imj anxious and uneasy abvout everything and I cannot get rid of it.My doctor suggests talking to a counsellor and gave me tablets for the physical symptoms but im still really bad.I feel like im in a bubble and that things are happening so fast its not real, bad things happen in my life and i have made mistakes and feel extreme guilt about them every single day of my life which is crazy.I feel so terribly messed up inside my head.I have all these irrational thoughts like for example i had a fight with my ex best friend and now we dont speak i should have felt upset abd guilty but inside my head ?I dont care a lot because i say to myself life is changing and this stuff happens.I just need an opinion on this please?

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  • jeim
    8 years ago

    I'm exactly the same way, so i feel your pain there. maybe its not necessarily "normal," but its not really abnormal either

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  • seekelp
    8 years ago

    "suggests talking to a counsellor"

    This is a good suggestion. I second your doctor's advice.

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  • MissClaire
    8 years ago

    You are addicted to being this way. Stop the pattern, think the opposite to what you are thinking (seriously try it). Smile at yourself in the mirror.

    You need to break this habit, and that's what it is, a HABIT of thinking like this. It's not a condition and don't start thinking that way because then nothing will ever change as you have made an excuse for your behavior for now and forever.

    I can tell you are young - life gets more difficult, if you do not learn how to deal with it now, you will be one of those adults that no one wants to be around, or hire, or date and then you will be like (in true fashion of these people) "why is everyone so mean to me waaa waaa?" - eluding to the 'fact' that your behavior is not your own responsibility but everyone else's fault.

    Be harder on yourself, when you think these thoughts, say to yourself "stop that, that is not the reality, everything is fine" and then go do something productive. You have too much time to think about non-existent BS. Stop the meds, that's for the weak and wont solve the problem. I agree with your doctor - talk to someone outside your family and friends.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      Some of your advice I agree with but not telling someone to stop medication and that it's weak people.

      Firstly, it can be VERY dangerous to stop some medication suddenly, especially anti-depressants and secondly, it's not necessarily weak for some people to need medication. Depression is not weakness and it's very ignorant to say so.

      If the depression is caused by or is causing a chemical imblalance in the brain, medication can help some people: I say this as someone who hates taking anti-depressants and believes they're over-prescribed, but that doesn't mean they're sometimes useful for some people.

      In my opinion, telling yourself that "everything is fine" is self-delusion because obviously not everything is fine for anyone all the time: it would be more helpful for OP to be realistic about whatever life situation h/she is facing.

      I totally agree that COP should seek out good counselling, but in my experience that's not always easy to find and if s/he needs medication in the meantime then so be it.

      Your post is perilously close to telling OP to pull him/herself together and believe me, that is no help whatsoever to someone who's depressed.

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      • MissClaire
        8 years ago

        Okay then he or she should probably continue the way they are going and get validation from people like you. Then they can continue to be confused and go down this shitty road.

        OP: people are always going to try and tell you things are out of your control and you have to ask yourself, do they have your best interests at hand or are they trying to hold you back so they can feel better about not doing anything about their shit. I hate that because people told me depression was out of my control and so I thought, okay, there is nothing wrong with what I'm doing, it's all because of a chemical imbalance and I need meds my whole life, and never change my behaviors/attitude (which is yeah harder). Medication is NOT a long term solution. Someone told me to buck up and that is the only thing that worked for me - thank god for that person.

        In short...do what works for you. Everyone is different. THats why this site is stupid because there is no one answer. Read all the answers and chose what works best for you.

        fucking dangerous to stop medication suddenly.... never suggested that. OBVIOUSLY consult your doctor and say you want to resolve this problem without meds... unless you want to be on meds. Stop trying to make something out of nothing... dont make things worse than they are or better than they are... THEY ARE WHAT THEY ARE, deal with it and move on.

        If you live in Canada Counselling is free so sorry if you don't but if you do, contact your health network... BTW my counselor was the one who told me to snap out of it.

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  • Asstastics
    8 years ago

    Good advice here. But also don't be afraid to get nude, rude, and lewd. Inhibitions are damaging.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    The best thing you can do is find yourself a good counsellor: Cognitive Behaviour Therapy can be very helpful, also Mindfulness Meditation.

    Is your doctor any help in finding a counsellor? In my experience it's sometimes hard to find a good one.

    You've taken one step in posting on this site, now you need to take that next step for yourself. Please do so because the longer this goes on the more entrenched it will become.

    I recommend a book which has helped me on a number of occasions: "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist who survived Auschwitz and the extermination of his family, so he knows a lot about despair. The message that stands out for me is his belief that we all have a freedom no-one can take away from us, the freedom to decide how to respond to any given circumstance.

    I hope I've helped - take care of yourself and trust that you can get through this and have a good life.

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