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When I was younger I never argued with anyone, I just did as I was told! But now I'm a teenager I've started to argue a lot more with my parents, brothers and everyone really!
Is it normal for this to happen?
It happens because when you're a child, you don't question things as deeply. You go with the status quo, because the adults have the authority. So even if you don't agree with the adults, you feel you must comply. When you're a teenager, you're already an adult mentally, though perhaps not yet emotionally. You begin to form adult opinions, and to feel offended when someone challenges your ideas. You also realize your parents aren't perfect. They're fallible, and they're sometimes wrong.
Being a teenager, there's already TONS of social pressure at school, so when you get home, you want to feel understood and loved, so it's natural to feel threatened when your parents still scold you for not doing all your chores or treat you like a kid when you're desperate for their respect, attention and understanding. The problem with being a teenager, though, is that adolescents feel emotions much more deeply than mature adults, and react to emotions equally intensely. It's not that teenagers are more hard-done-by, they're just not used to adult life yet. Adults get worn down and jaded over time so that the things that would rock a young teen's world don't seem to faze them. It's normal to feel like if someone breaks up with you it's the end of the world, or to feel intense panic and anxiety about finding a prom date, etc.
The part of a teenager's psyche that is still a lot like a child is the ego. Teenagers are still very much the centre of their own universes. It's not that they're selfish or don't care about anyone else, it's that they're self-centred. Empathy comes pretty naturally to most, but self-sacrifice and self-control come later.
The bottom line is, you're still going to be who you are now in ten years, you'll recognize yourself at the core, but when you have more perspective, you might find that some of your opinions, reactions, and conclusions of today won't hold up tomorrow. That's OK, because we're supposed to be continually learning and growing. Your parents aren't done learning either, and they have a LOT to learn from you as well. You'll start to realize that in some ways you might even be MORE mature than your parents, or perhaps that some of your parents opinions are dated or closed-minded. Some day, you'll see your parents as intellectual equals, and you'll be able to have adult conversations and debates and try to sway their opinions without getting into a screaming match. For that to happen, you need to grow up completely and they need to start seeing you as such. You might find that your parents will still treat you like a kid/teen when you're ALL grown up, though. xD Some parents can't let go.