Is it normal to ask my boss to inform me that his plane landed?

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I am a receptionist/office manager. My boyfriend said he "feels some type of way" because I ask my boss to let me know his plane landed safely when he flies. (If it is a personal vacation where he won't be missing work, I will not ask him to let me know if he landed. I only do so when I book his ticket and know exactly when he's flying.)

My boss flies a lot, I book his flights, and yes I ask him to let me know he landed alright. It is common for me if anyone I know is flying, to want to know they landed alright. To let me know, it will be a text saying "landed ok." or a quick phone call if he wants to check on the workers/shop.

We (my boyfriend and I) got into a discussion yesterday about this. It is really annoying because I would never betray my boyfriend verbally, mentally, or physically. Just a few weeks ago I caught him flirting with another girl through text calling her love and hun and various other nicknames. So why is he jealous that I ask my boss to let me know his plane landed ok?

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Arm0se

8 years ago

He's trying to make you look guilty because he has something to hide. Dump him! Dump him before he hurts you!

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Ellenna

8 years ago

You've answered your own question at the end of your post: he's jealous for no reason but he's either playing up on you or thinking about it

It's really none of his business how you organise your work time and your work relationship with your boss.

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- Bake34
  
  8 years ago
  
  Just curious why is it none of his business? Does that mean that the girls he flirts with are none of her business? I'm just wondering how far this goes? I'm not saying it does in this case, but if the work relationship borders on inappropriate doesn't he have a right to know?
  
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  - bassface
    
    8 years ago
    
    The work relationship between my boss and I is just that, a work relationship. Nothing is being hidden from my boyfriend. And like I stated when he lets me know he landed it is a quick two word text or a quick phone call if he wants to ask questions about the workers/shop. My boyfriend has a right to know everything in my opinion and I am ok with that because I don't have anything to hide.
    
    And again, he only lets me know when his leaving affects the job. I like to know he landed because 1. I'm a decent human being who would like to know ANYONE landed safely when flying. And 2. because if I have a question I'd like to know I am now able to text said question. (about work only.)
    
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yu-gi-ohChampion25

8 years ago

people used to say stuff like "the eagle has landed" to tell everyone that they made it back safe from war in telegrams a long time ago.

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Suicidal_Tendencies

8 years ago

Out of personal experience I have learned that most of the time, the people who are overly jealous for no good reason are most likely people who are cheating or have cheated in the past. This behavior comes from the subconscious fear that other people might be just like them. I am of course not saying that this is the case in your situation, but it has happened to me and I actually know some other people with the same (or similar) experiences.

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- bassface
  
  8 years ago
  
  Totally agreed and that is what crossed my mind as well. His reasoning for being jealous in general (while he won't admit he's insecure/jealous when it comes to me boss) is that he has been hurt in the past (by ONE girl when he was like 17...)
  
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Bake34

8 years ago

I mean I guess if you are actually friends with your boss. But yeah kinda weird. I can see both sides. He sounds guilty btw.

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flamer180

8 years ago

Because his mind has gone crazy, and he must stupidly assume your cheating. Or he doesnt care about the relationship as much as you, and is trying to find an excuse so he can get out of it.
Not trying to be rude, but these are realistic possibilities

If your not cheating, your fine to me. Caring about if your boss landed safely is fine.

Id say talk to him. And try to assure him your not cheating.

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thegypsysailorswifesleftfoot

8 years ago

I suppose the real question is: why is it necessary for you to know if he's landed ok? It's not like planes are crashing every 10th flight.

Is it a business necessity to know that fact or is it personal need? Only you know the answer to that.

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- bassface
  
  8 years ago
  
  It is not necessary. I will not get mad or upset if he doesn't tell me. I like to know he landed because it comes natural to me, if ANYONE I know tells me they are flying I like to know they landed ok. In the case of my boss it's not a personal need, it's just nice to know and it's not that complicated, like I said he'll just text me, "landed ok." and I reply with "ok." or if he needs to check on the shop he'll call.
  
  To be honest I never knew this would be a big deal to anyone, I am not being overly friendly or inappropriate with my boss at any given time. It's not like he calls me at home and we have full on conversations. It's always when I'm at work, he doesn't even call my cell. So yea it's work related and partly me being a decent human being.
  
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  - RoyRogers
    
    8 years ago
    
    Well it sounds like you are concerned for your bosses well being and since you are his secretary you wont get paid if he dies. You will just lose your job and that would totally suck. It sounds like you offer this consideration to most people which just shows you care, but either way if you are his personal assistant/secretary his well being means the difference between being jobless and getting a paycheck so you should give a damn! I think your BF might find this strange since he does not understand why an assistant would give such a curtiousy to thier boss.
    
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thegypsysailor

8 years ago

I think it's rather presumptuous of you to think it is your boss's responsibility to inform you that he has landed safely. If he chooses to do so, especially after he is aware of this desire of yours, that is his choice to make, but IMO you should never mention it again.
If he does call or text, then it would be appropriate to thank him, but nothing more, beyond office business.

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- bassface
  
  8 years ago
  
  "it's rather presumptuous of you to think it is your boss's responsibility..." I think you have some trouble reading. It would be presumptuous of me if I PRESUMED he had to inform me his flight landed.
  
  I asked him when he left for his first trip and after that it's given that he'll let me know he landed. And you are saying "...thank him, but nothing more..." I do not thank him for letting me know, I just say ok. And any other phone calls while he is away are business related because he pretty much runs the place. So everyone has me call him for questions. So why not re-read the post than reply when you actually understand what was written.
  
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  - RoyRogers
    
    8 years ago
    
    This sounds like you are often required to ask about his whereabouts because of other workers needing him. If that is the case, it does make sense you ask.
    
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    - bassface
      
      7 years ago
      
      Yes, always, whether it be customers, the workers, or his brother who is second in command pretty much.
      
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    8 years ago
    
    I read just fine.
    That you would even ask is the presumptuous part to me. You presume you have a right to even ask. It is not an employee's place to request such a thing from their boss, IMO. If he cares to let you know, then he'll call.
    
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    - bassface
      
      7 years ago
      
      Of course I had and have a right to ask. I'm not just some employee fawning over her boss. I am his assistant and the only receptionist here. We're not in some huge building with a large number of employees, so, like I said, my boss pretty much runs every aspect of the business. When he is gone I am the middle person that relays information to and from the boss, workers, and customers.
      
      Letting me know he has landed is not a matter of "caring" as you say. It's primarily for the business and partly because I'm a decent human being. Now, this week I booked some flights for him. He will be leaving on the weekend. I will not be expecting nor would I ask him to let me know when he lands, because his leaving will not interfere with the job.
      
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