Is it normal to be a has been

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Well im still kind of young,im turning 20 in january, i have been very successful and respected for things i have accomplished. i had a very promising boxing career. I was going to be in the 2012 olympics. but then after i graduated high school i messed my leg up and couldnt go to the gym for months. i then stayed in the house all day and lost motivation. now i feel like people really dont show me respect anymore. i miss that feeling. but now im moving to california. but i dont know if thats going to help. i feel like killing someone and i dont want to go the bad route cause it seems everytime im not in th gym i do reckless things. it seems like if i dont do this i dont know what to do cause im not really a bookworm and i refuse to work for someone else

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  • AnonyFox
    12 years ago

    It beats being a never-was.

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    If the injury is so bad that it prevent you from boxing, you could always become a boxing instructor and possibly even manage up and coming new stars.

    If the injury prevents you from doing even that it may be time to consider a new career, you're only 20, you have plenty of time to go to college and begin a new career working with your brain instead of your body. The best respect you can receive is when you accomplish something using your natural intelligence, and when people respect your ideas. Boxing requires a lot of intelligence and quick thinking under duress which are great traits in any work environment. Don't want to work for others? Start your own business.

    You have a lot of potential, you just have to get on the right track, and unfortunately if you can't box anymore, you may just have to move on.

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  • stellarbella
    12 years ago

    It's normal to feel demotivated sometimes especially after suffering an injury that prevents you from doing what you enjoy.. Take this time of demotivation to check in with yourself, touch base with who you are, what you want and need, make a few plans/goals, just go to the gym casually:1 time will lead to a second attempt at the gym then by the time you know it, you're riding on endorphins. You'll be ok!

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  • Pepper
    12 years ago

    Must be nice to "refuse to work for someone else" at 20, you spoiled brat.

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    • joybird
      12 years ago

      I have to say that I was thinking the same thing. Sorry, but beggars can't be choosers and you never know who you will meet that will open doors for you.

      Go with the flow, it will all work out in the end.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    So was the injury so bad that you couldn't keep going? What's stopping you now?

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago

    Don't let it derail you. I know a serious injury is really deflating, but use that as a goal to make yourself stronger than ever. It'll take time and progress will be slow, but in the long run it'll workout. Never give up hope!

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  • visualguy
    12 years ago

    life isn't linear. make new goals. my design career peaked in one aspect 15 years ago. another peaked (as in I quit) 5 years ago (art professor). now I'm doing fine art photo and travelling the world. I miss the money from my design studio. I miss the mentoring of college professor (but I still have my cult). I think that missing elements from "yesterday" (career-related) gives me that has-been feeling because I know that page has turned. at 20, turn another page. at 55, I think you need to learn to roll. life isn't about plan A, it's about rolling into plan Q, R and Z.

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  • Faceless
    12 years ago

    Well then, you can always revitalize bum fights.

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