Is it normal to be afraid of sex?

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I just broke up with an emotionally abusive ex boyfriend and he CONSTANTLY made me feel so bad about my past. Basically after four years of being with him I feel like I am not a woman that any man would want to marry, because I had made too many mistakes with guys in my past and there's no hope for me. It's like the guys I was with put a red X on me as far as being worthy of a respectable human being.

All of this has made me not desire sex at all, and actually become uncomfortable when other people talk about sex when we're hanging out or whatever. I'm afraid of ever having sex again (only in a committed relationship btw) without feeling so bad about it.

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Based on 103 votes (85 yes)
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  • aduusw
    12 years ago

    When someone loves you he doesnt care about your past mistakes.

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  • bryson_willis
    12 years ago

    well then yes... I'd say it's pretty normal. I would like to know how he accomplished this feat of asswhole-erry but I know that's personal.

    hopefully you'll give a better guy a chance, and he woun't disappoint you. But whatever you do don't let that ass back into your life!

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  • zenji
    12 years ago

    You will feel better. Sorry about the asshole.

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  • Brynne
    12 years ago

    It's great you broke up with him. He is the only one who did anything wrong. I wish you could just snap out of it, but it's going to take time and maybe some psych and/or spiritual help. *hugs*<3

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  • Tehboss
    12 years ago

    that's normal, sorry, you have to solve those issues first and no you are not bad and yes you will find someone who likes you ;)

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  • goodbyebluesky
    12 years ago

    He was always making me feel so bad about my past sexual experience. That's how.

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  • pleasedont
    12 years ago

    sex isnt weird it feels fucking goood. feels good for the boy and the girl

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    • goodbyebluesky
      12 years ago

      lmao awesome screen name btw

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  • shakalaka
    10 years ago

    I hear you. don't worry, things get better in time.

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  • Muhammadkolin
    12 years ago

    Be fine. no matter what

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  • sarahrocks24
    12 years ago

    @ pleasedont

    That's gross. She has a problem. You do not need to say that. It probably makes her feel worse.

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  • bryson_willis
    12 years ago

    I don't understand how sex came into it. Could you try to explain a little more?

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