Is it normal to be attracted to my twin brother?

I am an 18 year old male, and since I was 15, I have been very attracted to my identical twin brother.
We're very close and love each other very much but in the time we share together I feel as though I want more than that.

When we were about 15 we practised kissing and stuff and I don't know if he feels the same but when I hold him or try to kiss him, he doesn't push me away. What should I do!?

If you think it's wrong then okay, but it doesn't FEEL wrong, and I want this more than anything. I'm going to ask him to be with me and I want to hear your comments.

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  • expiredingoreville

    ahhh there's so many erotic fanfics on the internet with this situation. i've never heard of it actually happening in real life.

    honestly, i don't think there's anything wrong with it. you can't get him pregnant, so no harm no foul.

    and if he's not reactiong it's probably either because he doesn't know if he wants to feel the same way/he's holding himself back, or he doesn't want to hurt your feelings by rejecting you. let me know how it goes though.

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    • Zack809

      Thank you for giving me a serious response, unlike some people. Since I posted this not much has changed, i'm still hideously in love with him and I still haven't plucked the courage to talk to him about it, I kiss him a lot more and he kisses back, it's difficult to talk about it because I guess we don't know what to say, I can tell by the way he's acting that he wants to talk about it too.

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      • lalaboi

        Me Personally... i think it is fine, as long as both of you are comfortable with the situation. Hell if i had a twin brother and i felt that way it would be killing me too! You can't change what your heart feels! He is your brother i think he will love you no matter what his response will be or what your feelings are! He might not want to go in that direction and he might! I have found out over the years that some family members will surprise you... if it is not to be he might be willing to help you through the feelings you are having. Also if he is kissing back as much as you say then man i think he is probably going through the same hell you are! Matters of the heart are a difficult thing to work through sometimes! GOOD LUCK and hope that everything works out for you! And don't listen to all the negative stuff people throw at you! It is your life!

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      • gabi123

        plus its technically masturbating just if u wanna justify it

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  • Blitzi

    It's me too bro. Me and my brother are fans of this band called Tokio Hotel and we were looking up some stuff on them and came across some rumours and fan arts of the twins going at it and to this date, I've done more with my twin than with most of the girls I've been with.

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    • habertlilly123

      Yeah dude, I totally get where you're coming from, my 3rd cousin 8 times removed and I used to go skydiving and always found rats in our basements when we would play basketball after going to shop n save. We were also really into metallica at the time, god I was so damn horny.

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  • SharpLikeCheddar

    Narcissist

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  • Andramelach

    This is a strange situation. There are few things to consider.

    Would you say that it is a product of you spending so much time with your brother that you are now physically attracted to him?

    Since you two were born are you still identical? Meaning are you both the same physical build, distinguishing scars that sort of thing.

    Have either of you dated the opposite sex before now?

    These are all probing questions I realise and you by no means have to answer them. I'm just trying to get a better feel for the situation.

    Last question. Is it also possible the you are posting this question on this site in an effort to gain some sort of approval that you would otherwise not recieve at home?

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    • Zack809

      @Andramelach
      Sorry for the late reply but yeah, I definately know we won't get any approval at home, I'm asking this to find out if it really can be okay. Because I know now that I love him. No, I haven't dated with the opposite sex before, I have had girlfriends in the past but they got in the way of my relationship with my brother, I guess it was then that I realised I needed him. I know that we look exactly the same but when I look at him it's COMPLETELY different than looking in the mirror, he's so sexy and attractive. Do you think it's weird? I really want to be with him, I want to know if it's possible.

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  • ILBKMAAAADW

    hey, I guess its pretty late but talk to your twin about it. I mean if he kisses you back it has to be something. And don't let anyone tore you apart. As you felt by yourself, you need each other. And it is normal, there is even a twin gay couple in public eye (they are pornstars but anyway), and if you already talked to each other, please tell us what happened, good luck :)

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  • You should be locked up.

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  • cutegalsly

    OMG! you really need serious prayers....dont be decieved its very wrong to feel that way about your twin bro thats soooo unGodly...trust me i really wish that u would change your mind about that....sincerely

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  • Lynxikat

    I don't think it's normal- personally, I think it's sick.

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  • BRIAN032352

    Yes,absolutely ask him.If you both feel the same way then you can both decide what will come next.It is better than keeping it bottled up inside.If you are both gay then fine.If not then confiding with your brother will bring things out into the open.Good luck and proceed cautiously.

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    • Zack809

      Thank you for the kind advice, i'm definately going to ask him soon. x

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  • envy_wrath

    i think you should ask him straight out. it will be incest if you go further, and your family might not approve.

    think about what will happen if you go through with this.

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  • CherryCoke96

    No offense but that's really creepy.

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  • FireWorks

    I know it's too late to comment and I'm not sure if you're still visiting this page. All I wanna ask is how you're doing now..

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  • Twin2Twin

    Hey! I'm not sure if you're still checking this thread....but I'd really like to talk to more twins about this. Message me!

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  • zenji

    It's not acceptable, but I wonder about normal. Those are two different things alot of the time. Like adultery is not acceptable, but most people at least think about it. There is a pair of identical gay twin brothers I've seen online that are pornographic performers. They are happy, or profess to be, at least. They say they love each other and will be a couple forever. It seems they're tough enough to discard all other family in the name of their relationship. Beyond that, they probably have a very small circle of friends that are ok with what they're doing. Some anthropologists assert that incest is taboo because it is extremely disruptive to family unity, and that this problem trumps genetic reasons by far. Nowadays, with genetic "controls" and the ability to disown family to make one's own, the decision is yours. Unless you're a fundamental christian, or even christian, probably, or religious, I guess, you're a free agent.

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  • habertlilly31

    Yeah, this reminds me of the time when me and Tom were at the lake and we saw a horse across the lake. We yelled across at it and told it to join in a three way with us. "here I am, buh nuh, rock you like a hurricane", but the horse just looked at us dumbfounded. We then showed the horse our titties and he didn't react so me and him threw a shoe to the ground after we did a 15 foot crack line. I guess the moral of the story is it just takes some time, little girl, little girl, your in the middle of the ride, everything, everything will be alright, alright! yeah, so don't fuck Tom, hes a total whore, he won't commit to anything.

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  • It's kind of you being in love with yourself.

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  • deb

    Thats not normal. Its illegal. You already have something so beautiful and amazing most people dont have but want. An identical twin. How closer can you get?!

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    • XCoD420X

      Well they can get anywhere from 2 to 9 inches closer if they grab a bottle of lube

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  • Gardenia

    This is SO wrong dude:/
    It's totally cool if your gay, but... Gay for your bro?
    No way man!!! Your in heat, you need to find yourself a good guy that would love you and let you kiss him. Lol!
    Pretty gross though dude...

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  • kricket

    Think about the amazing person you will risk not meeting and at the same time causing emotional harm to your family. Always going with your feelings isn't always right.

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  • BallerinaCass

    BUTT SEX!!!

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  • Scrat

    Well nothings wrong with being gay but with your bro it makes it strange and if he rejects you then ...

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  • Thats really not normal AT ALL

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  • alv1592

    if you like your brother whose identical to you, it's sorta like you like yourself too. just sayin.

    and no, incestual relations are not normal...

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    • XCoD420X

      Its not incest its masturbation if you look at it genetically so long as they are identical twins

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  • geridj13

    Hey there ,I know it's probably too late for advise or i am not even sure if i would receive any answer but i was intrigued by you statement and want to know how are the things going between your interactions with your brother, how did the relationship turn out, i can give you some advise about it because i have friends with the same problem and i would trully appreciate if you give me a response :)

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  • Bobsled

    I don't think this is as unusual as people might think. I'm an identical twin, and when we were sort of going through puberty and the hormones were raging we were just sort of curious about stuff so we experimented on each other. Nothing really major, mostly just checking each other out, comparing, fondling, and masturbation. When it's an identical twin, it's like playing with yourself --- only hotter. We did grow out of it. I'm now married and 100% heterosexual, but my twin is gay and very happy. We never discussed this with anyone other than a few other identical twins we had met and become close with who also admitted to similar experimenting

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  • guggle

    Not judging, but what I've read is that 50% of identical twins are gay, and that 52% have consumated relations with their identical twin brother. The percentage may be higher according to some psychologists. Most identical twins marry women and have children, and consider it a phase. Very few continue the relationship. Most have continual relations as teens. But stop as they grow older. Others start as adults, usually in their late teens, 18 or 19, or older. But they too stop. If you've made out like you said, then consumation should be the next step. But most identical male twins usually stop after a while. Most go to other partners that are not related. Pyschologists and psychiatrists disagree whether this is normal behavior, since many males masturbate themselves without an identical twin. So some have concluded that this type of behavior may not be incest. So when they see a duplicate. They masturbate and do other sexual activity on that carbon copy. I am not taking any postion here, or judging. But if you are conflicted on nature of relationship you want with your identical twin, I would suggest therapy. It would be better to speak to another identical twin of their experience. But if not possible, then therapy may be a solution. It would be better to find another un related male. But since identical male twins are doing this on a large scale...then the choice is really yours..

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  • habertlilly123

    Yeah dude, I totally get where you're coming from, my 3rd cousin 8 times removed and I used to go skydiving and always found rats in our basements when we would play basketball after going to shop n save. We were also really into metallica at the time, god I was so damn horny.

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  • vaniaberry

    i dont think theres anything wrong about it. i find it quite sexy actually¨!

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  • HOUSEELF

    your twins.

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  • psycotics

    Twins share a verry special bond perhaps that is what you are feeling. Are you gay by any chance that may explain some of this and even thoght you feel this way about your brother I would suggest not to act on it. Beccause, at least where I live anyway what you are talking about is highly illegal. So if you go against my advice at least becareful

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  • Jeci_Cassidy

    well maybe you should really think about this before you go any further. see if dating someone will help. you never know.

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  • chocolatenugget

    you can go out with a mirrer, since you and you identecle brother look the same

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  • Inspector019

    I can understand the potential problem seeing as most people are into themselves quite a bit. Including sexual phantasies visualizing themselves in various scenarios, masturbation, vanity and appearance obsessions etc. So I can see how being identical twins could cause perhaps distorted feelings that maybe you are not processing correctly. You guys are practically the same person and do share the same genetics. However, the feelings you are having are a bit confused with the normal attractions that people have with themselves on a daily basis. Problem is you aren't the same person but rather versions of the same person. You may share many things but don't allow yourself to be confused and make a decision that could psychologically mess you up. You have to separate yourself from the hormones and realize this is an attraction to yourself rather than your twin and keep it that way. It is time to create new identities that allow you to become your own people and grow and learn what else is in the world. It is important to do this now before you allow the confusion and hormones to cause irreparable damage to your mind and spirit. If you find you are in to guys, then so be it, but your brother is not the one. Learn who you are and you will find what you are really looking for.

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