Is it normal to be contemplating changing your gender?
Male here. For a long time now I was catching myself thinking or rather daydreaming about being a girl, but it was always kinda hypothetical. But I was changing my style rapidly in the past few months and now the uncertainty of my feelings bugs me, doesn't let me think of anything else. I just don't feel like I can be happy staying a guy. I have a pretty clear picture of what I want myself to be, to look like, to behave, but I can't put away the stuff I have now. I'm attractive, a bit feminine-looking (but not in a weird way), I have a nice singing voice and I'm scared of losing it if I'm decided to shape myself in a completely different fashion. I'm not sure if I can even achieve the looks of a normal female without heavy surgery. I'm 5'11", have pretty large hands and feet for a typical female and all that... I'm not gay and absolutely do not want any half measures for myself – it's either a good-looking guy or a cute girl, nothing in between. And though I'm afraid of losing what I have now and I can't really be complaining about anything regarding my appearance, I still feel like I'm not entirely myself in this body. Wearing skirts and cute pajamas, going out in all pink, talking in a high-pitched voice, applying make-up, being a real 20 y.o. girl – that's what I want the most right now. Is it normal? Can it be a part of my depression process or BPD? How should I handle this? It's driving me nuts!
It's weird | 20 | |
It's normal, don't worry about it | 16 | |
It's normal, you should go trans | 9 |