Is it normal to be extremely scared of my mother dying

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I'm 18 years old and my mom is 48, I'm extremely scared of her dying she doesn't have any disease and pretty healthy besides her smoking problem. But sometimes I just start thinking of her dying or I'm at her memorial and then I start braking down crying then all the people I love is there to and I know it will happen but I'm just so scared for the day it does happen I love her so much, and we have an amazing bond. But even when I'm super happy.. The thought just starts creeping in and I start crying

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  • megadriver
    5 years ago

    Both of my parents are retired. Senior citizens...
    The day they die, will be the day I drink myself unconscious and not come around for a few days.

    Death is shit! Change in most cases is shit.

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    Can you change your thinking to remind yourself you'll have enough grief to deal with when she does die, rather than being so unhappy about it in advance?

    If you can get her to stop smoking that'd be good: I speak as someone who smoked for decades and now have emphysema, which is incurable and is going to be a horrible way to die if something else doesn't get me first.

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  • paramore93
    5 years ago

    This made me a cry a little.
    The sad reality is that one day we will all be gone and there is nothing we can do about it. All you can do is make every single second of time you have with your mum the best it can be. Create some amazing memories that will never leave you. One day you can tell these stories to your children, they can tell them to their children and the memories will live on through your family.
    If she's only 48 you could have another 40+ years of life with her, cherish every second. I lost my mum way before her time. It is still devastating but I have some amazing memories that can never be taken away from me.

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    • Grimslilreaper
      5 years ago

      thank you for making me remember that i do have awhile till the day does come, and yes someday i can tell my children amazing stories about my mother or our adventures! i have been trying to keep my mind of the thought of her gone. I have a brother and i shared this with him a couple weeks ago and he agreed with me 100% both of us will be heart broken but as you said all we have to do is make every second count.

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      • paramore93
        5 years ago

        I wish you many happy times.

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