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By parents? Because I hate it, and am torn between logic and ethics so it's creating a lot of guilt. Like having to earn everything in life or realizing that I was born with money and should just finish college and find a way to pay my parents back after I get a job.
I'm not sure why you feel that getting financial support from your family is unethical. Full scholarships also pay people's way through school; consider it a full scholarship that you earned years ago when your parents set aside money for your education.
You're very fortunate to have that option, but it isn't a bad thing. It frees you to focus solely on your studies. If you feel you aren't contributing enough, then spend some of the time you aren't spending in a grindingly dull retail job or low-paying internship with volunteer work. You have a great opportunity to do that right now, and I'm sure your parents would be proud, too.
You'll have the rest of your life to work and earn your way. Enjoy the opportunity you have now; if you want to pay your parents back after school, you can, but there's no moral or ethical quandary about spending money they probably started saving for this very purpose since before you were born.
You may feel guilty at the moment, but trust me it's not a bad thing. Your family wants to support you, more often than not it's actually harder for them to let you do things on your own. Not to mention you won't have a loan to pay back since they're helping you out. The best payback you can give them is to graduate and make a good living for yourself.
If college is paying for you to go to college that means you earned it. If you have parents paying you are very lucky. Some of us dont get that much.
My tuition is paid for with scholarships, but my family helps me pay for living expenses. I hate it too.But at the same time I appreciate it dearly. I am so ready to get a job and become fully independent. I hate having to live up to others' expectations just because they help me. I want to be able to live up to my own expectations simply because it is what I think is best for me.I'm sure I would be a better person for it. Then there is the guilt of not being able to visit the family members who support me because I'm so damn busy with school and parenthood. And it doesn't help when they put me on a guilt trip.
The way I see it, your parents owe you a decent education and a place to live. If they cannot provide either regardless of you being maybe 18 then they shouldn't of had you in the first fucking place.
Your comment makes me sad because I am unable to save money for my daughter's future at this point in my life. For now, all I can give her is knowledge, love and discipline.
I know people in the same boat as you, they gave no thought at all before having a child even though they had no savings, don't own their own own house or have careers, they had a child anyways because that is what they wanted. Love is not enough in this day and age, especially in the USA where it costs a lot to have a decent education.
Actually, I planned on having no children. And had i waited until I became financially stable, I probably would have never had children. My daughter was a gift of fate and from God. It would have been more stupid of me to not have her than to have her now, while my life isn't perfect. I'm not advising this to everyone. I was super lucky and blessed to have family that can give her everything she needs when i cannot. I know I will be able to save for her later on because it is my number one priority to give hey everything she needs. Honestly, I don't think you know anyone who is like me.