Is it normal to be in love with a narcissist?

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So... I dated this guy for 2 years. He's a great guy but has done some shady shit to me (cheating, destroying my things). We broke it off and didn't speak for a few months. Just in the past 3 weeks, we started chatting again and seen each other and what not. Here's the thing, he was seeing another guy that broke his heart, and I feel as I'm just being used as a rebound (sex, cuddles, someone to chat with). He seems so interested in me more than he has ever been, even asked me today if I could transfer to a store closer to him (I work in retail) insinuating a move in situation. I want to see where things go because I fell in love with him before but I don't want all the craziness we went through before. I would do anything for this man, but I want the same treatment back, ya know? The relationship always felt one sided after the first year however, I think something changed. Is it normal to still be in love with someone who's done me dirty and want to make something work or am I a complete dumbass? Before you ask, yes, he really is a narcissistic asshole.

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  • ellnell
    2 years ago

    Yes. Narcs are very charming, often intelligent people. That's how they get you.
    They like to have the center of attention and would lie and make up anything for attention and admiration to feed their egos including the classic "i'm going to change" in relationships without having any intention to. They only want their partner to stay because having a relationship improves their image (narcs are OBSESSED with their image they care about NOTHING else more) and because having the love of a partner feeds their ego but they don't actually love anyone as they are incapable of it. They may love the attention you give them though but they'll never be satisfied with attention from just one person.

    And yes narcs can be even overwhelmingly romantic. They study behaviours including movies to learn tricks and they'll say or do anything to make you happy because if you're happy you will not bother him with suspicion about his "private affairs". They tend to be very "all or nothing", extreme highs and extreme lows in the relationship which is another trick to make you stay and a form of abuse. The extreme lows will make you insecure and sad, when you are sad you are vunerable and the narcissist uses that to his advantage. It's all a game and they enjoy playing it. Like a cat plays with a mouse.

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  • pastafather
    2 years ago

    My wife is a narcissist. The other day she tried to make me spend all my chaw money on a pair of shoes 4 her. She kept saying she was tired of walking around with used Kleenex boxes rubber banded to her feet instead of shoes.

    How selfish can someone be? Its rlly gross.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    I am attracted to narcissistic women but I wouldnt wanna ever have a serious relationship with one

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  • litelander8
    2 years ago

    My narcissist is the same way. I really love our relationship living separately.

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