Is it normal to be involved in style in your mid-30s?

Hello everyone, this is Hansberger, and I'm back (insert normalcy here), I was somewhat confused since 37 years old (it was my birthday this year on the 24th of March), whether to be normal, extremely normal or not, but I'll try being extremely normal. So here goes: I read on Urban List on the internet to nail my personal style, a style that works for me, for me this is: normal, refined, majestic, pompous, exquisite, fancy, opulent, and ornate and also refinement, dignity, humility, prestige, dandy, investing in quality classy pieces that spark joy (Urban List said quality, stylish pieces that spark joy, but I prefer a different type of stylishness and that's classiness, which is what really works for me), glitz and glitter, goodbye to fleeting trends and trying to achieve Instagram perfection, goodbye to drugstore makeup, fast fashion, and hand-me-down furniture from a flatmate, fine vegetarian purist wines I get (made of grapes), a cigar I smoke, it's everything from beauty to clothes to home decor, being greedy (not gluttonous nor eating too little), wearing dark colours or muted tones with a bright pocket handkerchief or sharp cufflinks, eschewing denim and wearing a more refined fabric like corduroy and linen, wearing a wig and lots of velvet and also lace & jewellery in the future, wearing tweed, and also having a tasteful and meaningful tattoo (which will be one I designed myself of a fleur-de-lis on my left arm) & an impressive (and well-groomed) beard, and eating gourmand food on occasion and never drinking coffee, ending up instead drinking fine tea and staying awake at night with tea, listening to classical, jazz, swing, (being purist about all this music), and classy jazz, cool jazz, and church music (not purist about it), and listening and/or dancing to waltz music (purist about it) without listening to any newer music, just old music, is nailing a style that works for me, concerning that I'm nailing my style in my mid-30s (from 36 3/4 years-37 years young now), is this normal?

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  • Tommythecaty

    What in the fuck did I just read

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    • Hansberger

      That's right, you read about style!

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      • Tommythecaty

        I...don’t know if I can argue I didn’t....I....actually don’t know lol

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        • Bazinga

          With Hans, it's all about the Lithium.

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          • Hansberger

            Bazinga, how are you? Sure I don't get my lithium, but I sure do get that crazy injection even though I'm not crazy, that one mistake of people thinking my diet was odd was the day the people on this website thought I was crazy, despite trying to be normal! I'll look up a normal diet, perhaps how to eat wisely, for people not to think it's even crazy to attempt it, even though you people are already convinced I have weird diet choices. It's OK to have a bunch of crap you just made up, but people will will think you're crazy, as they thought I was crazy. :)

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            • Bazinga

              Greetings my crazy friend. Crazy world, crazy pills. I'm looking for crazy women to have some crazy fun. Nothing wrong with a crazy fuck. Especially if you do it her way. How about you?

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          • Tommythecaty

            Explains a lot

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    still searchin for that identity eh hans?

    if yall had bidness acumen yalld make a dandy james bond villian

    thanks for informin me that wine is madea grapes btw

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    • Hansberger

      Yes and I hope I'm enjoying this identity more than ever.

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      • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

        livin in a volcano sittin in a fancy chair strokin a cat wearin a golden suit and sendin spies to theys death?

        sounds like fun

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        • Hansberger

          That's not the story at all, the story goes that I'm wearing fancy ties and fancy bow ties and a suit-jacket, and wearing lapel pins and a medal all on one suit-jacket on the left near the top of such a jacket, wearing fancy black slacks (and not regular ones, they do have them), while drinking a Big Bold Red in a wineglass and smoking a cigar indoors, listening to classical music and writing my story of how I succeeded with my classiness, fanciness, exquisiteness and refinement, while eating the accompanying cheese with the wine, in the kitchen I'm drunk smoking cigarettes while cooking a fancy dish, say pasta or a mushroom stroganoff, for lunch, and serving it with pasta, and I recommend a cabernet sauvignon 2019 varietal to go with it, doing all this stuff is complicated, as they don't make style easy, they make it hard, it requires a lot of details as to how it's done, it's experience, not the internet that can teach you to properly have style, but those movies can give you the inspiration, no problem, you will never spot me wearing a plain black suit, plain black slacks, plain white shirt and a plain black tie, I'm actually dressed fancy, which means, "ornamental, elaborate". And although I wasn't born fancy this way, I've done poshness all my life, starting off with the four black and white clothes when instead of wearing a black tie, I was wearing a fancy tie, it was later in life that I got pompous in my dress.

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          • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

            i wear dirty jeans and a walmart tshirt

            or a company tshirt cause theyre free from work

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            • Hansberger

              Yeah, coming from a person who knows nothing about fashion. Here's a tip: to have that average look is to wear a denim jacket with a brown and blue striped shirt and blue jeans, I bought a blue denim jacket from H&M a year ago and it gives me that normal look, even though I'd look ordinary just as well in the above striped shirt.

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  • Mammal-lover

    I had to stop reading that was chaotic

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    • Boojum

      Those of us who have encountered HansBerger here before know that whatever style he may aspire to, chaotic is always his main thing.

      I'm pretty sure English isn't his first language, so I guess that's a factor too.

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      • Hansberger

        English is my first language, it's all I know, along with a language I invented called the UL (United Language).

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  • Avocadopeople

    I don't even know what I just read. Honestly am thinking a computer just decided to post. If you're human, I'm scared for you buddy. Not because you like style which is definitely normal but because your message looks like a 3rd grader is trying out every new vocabulary word he learned in one gigantic paragraph of nonsense

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    • Boojum

      Hans has been here before, going on at great length about his search for the correct religion. I'm pretty sure he eventually decided that he had to invent his own belief-system.

      I suppose it's a positive sign that he's now moved on to pondering the truly important questions in life.

      Stand by for many posts debating what colour and style of wig he should wear.

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      • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

        his weekly reinvention of himself revolvin around various weird dietary choices & haberdashery

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        • Hansberger

          The reinvention has been there for nearly a year, unchanged, and I'm happy now that you're talking to me again. I simply from a few months ago changed my style from fancy and refined etc, to fancy, refined etc, dandy and classy, I hope it works for everyone. :)

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      • Hansberger

        Yes, that's true, and my philosophy says it all in fashion.

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    • Hansberger

      I decided to post, not a computer, and I'm human. I have very precise English and very specific.

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      • Boojum

        Hans, there are 350 words in your post, two sentences and one paragraph.

        I'll grant you that your spelling is correct, your grammar okay and your punctuation not terrible, but any piece of writing is more than the sum of its parts, and the readability is totally crap.

        The Flesch Reading Ease score for your text is -95 (negative ninety-five), when an author should aim for something greater than 60.

        The Flesch-Kincaid Grade score is 70, when you should be aiming for a score of no more than 10 in informal communication such as that on this site.

        Stream of consciousness writing has its place in literature, but it's not the way to structure your writing if you want people to easily understand the points you're making.

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        • Hansberger

          Yes, and people will have negative opinions despite evidence to the contrary, just tell me I'm great, I know it's perfect, love me or face the consequences. There's no such thing as a useless version of me.

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        • Hansberger

          None of this is crap, but OK, if it happens to get deeper I'm sure you won't understand, you only understand crap you learned on the internet, life is a series of experiences, a lot of that stuff can't be learned on the internet, e.g. I didn't learn most of my religions from the internet but from books and experience, and another example is getting the right suits and wearing the right ties (not from the internet, although I got most of my ties from the internet and 4 ties, two of which are lost, in stores rather than the internet), I only learned the four-in-hand knot from my gentleman book, I couldn't learn it on the internet, with any other necktie I use the four-in-hand knot and only the four-in-hand knot, with a bow tie I tie a special knot for a bow tie, which is very difficult, and it loosens so I have to every 3 minutes tighten it, a bow tie is a lot of work, it's easier with a clip-on bow tie, and it's easier to wear any other tie tying it yourself using the four-in-hand knot, the easiest knot you can tie. I'm going on about this because it's the subject of style. Furthermore I mainly, almost always wear fancy overelaborate ties, ornate ties that are refined, with refinement, and sometimes wear my simple red tie. A tie is by definition a long narrow piece of material worn knotted round the neck, a clip-on tie of any kind uses no knots, but is worn round the neck, it's an upgrade but it's not a proper tie, I once had a clip-on tie which I lost, but I didn't buy that clip-on tie, my mother gave me some clip-on ties for me to clip on my neck, but since I read my gentleman book, with the exception of bow ties, I stopped wearing clip-on ties. :)

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  • BlackButler

    Yes and if you love creativity that’s part of who you are. I mean I assume you aren’t some vapid trend following Hollywood type lol

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    • Hansberger

      I think creativity is the reason some people are geniuses. Anyone can slap on an original creation and make normal out of it, which isn't easy. I find it quite conventional how Hegel goes on with complications in his metaphors of his philosophy as to the nature of a religion or the nature of man, which is so complicated it's difficult to explain. All that stuff on the nature of things isn't that simple, as a genius understands Hegel but then doesn't understand him. That's how complicated it is, that's why a man needs to get creative, to do the really hard things, but then my life is and should be simple, of which I'm still learning how it's done.

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