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Sometimes I'll say something and people either don't get what I'm trying to say or take offense to it. However, someone else can say the exact same thing, in the exact same way, and in the exact same context, and nobody has a problem with it. Has anyone else experienced this problem? How common is it? Is this normal?
Sometimes I'll say something, and people interpret it the opposite of what I said. I find this offensive and hurtful.
Worst addition, if you're also born with resting bitch face. It makes you more misunderstood than usual even though you didn't mean to offend them at all with your words. Understandable and relatable, OP.
either it’s your tone of voice, who you say it to, or it’s your body language.
Body language has a lot to do with it.
I suggest that you start reading books on Emotional Intelligence. Also "How to Win Friends & Influence People - In the Digital Age" (a modern update of the original from I believe the 1930's).
You can learn to do better if you are willing to...
Ive read some stuff like that. For me it makes me nervous because I start noticing when my bsody language isnt flowing right and then im like FUCK THIS IS WHAT THE BOOK SAID DONT DO.. then I stutter and lose my thoughts and then I try to do it the right way and it comes off more awkward then im like ok fuck the book and I go back to my inferior body language. Whats this about?