Is it normal to be nice only with my close friends?

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I have a friend that is relatively normal and kind within our group. However, it just surprises me how indifferent and cold he is with strangers or with people that he is not interested in befriending.

For example, he always talks to the waiters/waitresses or cashiers in a very impolite way. Also, whenever a friend of a friend joins a meeting, he completely avoids talking to the person, he never asks anything and doesn't even join conversations. He stopped talking to all his high school friends as well, he doesn't even say hi to them if he finds them in the street.

He isn't shy or anything, he is actually quite skillful socially. I have asked him several times why he acts like that, and he always says that he doesn't want to be an "hypocrite" or that he "doesn't need" anything from these people. And well, he implies that people that are kind with everyone are "phonies"... So, I just wondered... is it normal to think like that?

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Based on 14 votes (7 yes)
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  • Koda
    10 years ago

    Phonies? What is he, a Holden Caulfield wannabe? My brother is kind of like this. To say that people who are nice to everyone are phonies is ridiculous. It doesn't take a lot of effort to show a little common courtesy to your fellow human beings. Plus, being nice is only gonna reward you. I always get extra stuff at drive-through windows because I'm so extra nice. Strangers stop me to thank me for being so nice. It doesn't take any effort at all, but it feels good, and you're doing the world good. Your friend is, simply put, an a-hole.

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  • Jeaneathean
    10 years ago

    He sounds like an unpleasant person.

    He would probably function very well in a business environment.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Well, he does function quite well in his job, but he doesn't have to talk to people at all. But I don't think he would work well as an executive, going to meetings, networking, showing interest in people's proposals, etc...

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      • Thanatos_4_The_Win
        10 years ago

        If he's not nice to everyone how did he get to no u?

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