Is it normal to be protective?

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i don't even know if anyone would consider this as "protective" but I really think I get defensive for my friends and family. when my friends and I are walking down the street, I walk outside just in case of car accident. when drunk dude came over and said random stuff to my friend, I pushed he's hand down and tried to get he's attention so my friend doesnt have to deal with him. when a stranger came to talk to my Japanese friend (girl),who can't speak English very well, in ny, I told him that we're busy and have to hurry so he doesnt talk to her anymore and stuff like that. those happened before and I have many other situations that I feel like I have to be the one to step up so my friends don't have to deal with things. I'm not huge or buff, people say I'm short and skinny... but I still do those.. iin?

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  • Dad
    12 years ago

    Actually being overly protective can also have undesired affects. (Sorry to put a negative on this, even though all are saying how wonderful it is)

    What happens when something happens and you're not there?
    What happens when friends and GF do need to protect themselves and ONLY look for you?

    I feel you should ONLY jump in when absolutely needed. And note this is usually NEVER.
    Your friends need to look after themselves, and only then will you find that they are 'protected'.

    The biggest concern here, is when parents become overly protective of their children (ie where you're headed one day!)
    The children will NEVER learn how to live and support themselves, plus they won't really have that much 'living life to the fullest' fun.

    Next time, stand back and trust your friends are people too, they may just surprise you and protect YOU one day.

    Its all about trust.

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    Hey me too cool guy

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    I wish I had you around!!!! I got jumped by three people and my bf didn't even try to protect me or save me. I'm not saying he should have hit the three girls, but he could have pulled me out or blocked them instead of just stood there. They were all much bigger than me. (this happened a very long time ago but it still pisses me off) anyway you are awesome!

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    • joybird
      12 years ago

      I hope he's an ex!!

      I've been attacked a few times in my life by jealous women and a male friend / doorman always wrapped himself around me to protect me from any blows.

      My sister married a coward and he pushed her in front of him when he was being threatened by a mugger!!

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      • TyLee
        12 years ago

        Yes he is an ex now but I really wish I broke up with him right then and there because having a coward for a bf sucks and I let that relationship last way too long. Omg! I really can't believe that your sister's husband did
        that!! Please tell me she broke up with him!

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        • joybird
          12 years ago

          Oh yes! He wasn't just a coward but a cheat too! We caught him with a gf while my sister was still breast feeding the youngest of their four kids. He then cleaned out all their bank accounts and put her into debt while she was on maternity leave. The house was even up for repossession!

          She was with him 15 years in total - married for 9yrs!

          Personally, I couldn't stand him but ....

          Isn't it awful to read on this site, kids who are wasting their time with abusers, bullies, cheats and liars? Someday they will be just like us and wonder, "Why did I waste so much time?"

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          • TyLee
            12 years ago

            Wow! What a terrible guy! At least she is not with him anymore. I couldn't agree more about the kids on this site wasting their time with abusers, cheaters, and liars. You are exactly right that one day they will realize it and wish they hadn't wasted the time. I put up with that crap for like 7 years but I'm so thankful that I see much clearer now. I'm 21 so it's not too late although I do wish I realized it sooner. Another good question is why can guys be such jerks? I can't get over your sisters ex husband! That is just so so horrible!

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            • joybird
              12 years ago

              OMG! I must spend practically every weekend at the clubs listening to women sob their hearts out in the bathroom about what their husbands have done on them. I have heard it all hundreds of times and nothing surprises me any more! It's all based on them protecting their wages and pensions. Men close the box on any part of their history they're done with, and don't dwell on emotions the way women do! What my sister's ex did was fairly mild compared to some. It's worse when the women aren't married to the men and have no rights!

              Don't ever underestimate the levels they can stoop to! You are still young but you will be a lot more cynical when you get to my age!

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    I think that's a good trait to have. kudos!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Ya, that's normal, you're loyal. Just don't let it get you into trouble.

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    • Comando96
      12 years ago

      He is the Rainbow Dash of his friends :P

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      Good trait to have. I am pretty much like that with my friends too. More on the violent side though (but only defensive).

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      • flutterhigh
        12 years ago

        Can I be Pinkie Pie?

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        • squirrelgirl
          12 years ago

          I thought you wanted to be Fluttershy based on your username.

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          • flutterhigh
            12 years ago

            NO. I WANNA BE PINKIE PIE.

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  • Noonesperfect
    12 years ago

    Maybe you scared them away with your big penis

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