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I was dating this guy and like I thought I wanted physical stuff but really I didn't. Long story short he didn't really listen to my actions and words and blamed the hormones. He didn't SA me in that sense but rather none of the touch was consensual. I was quiet because I was uncomfortable
Yeah. It is unfortunately super common. A lot of women don't feel they can say no to their partner, just like a lot of men feel they have the right to do anything they want to the person they're dating so they don't take no for an answer or on purpose ignore signs of discomfort.
Silence is still a lack of consent. If someone is turned on by what's going on then that is obvious, being quiet and most likely stiff and looking upset on top of that silence then that is a non-verbal no that most people would pick up on. Even my autistic ass can tell if someone is uncomfortable.
Sorry that happened to you.
Normal to be sad when someone doesn’t listen to or respect you, especially someone you wanted to date.
YES and i was dating him which made it so much harder... we still in contact but like it was my 2nd incident (he wasn't the first and the first was completely different )
I’m sorry that happened. It’s really disheartening and messes with your trust.
I think I misread your title at first. I thought you wrote sad instead of sa’d. If you were asking if it’s normal for these types of situations to happen, unfortunately yeah I think it’s pretty normal and common.
I think you should take a break from dating altogether, take some self-defense classes, and start reading books on boundaries.
I also highly recommend reading a book called, "The Gift of Fear", by Gavin de Becker!
Thank you to everybody who added their knowledge and thoughts, I am not sure how I will move going forward but I know it will be difficult nonetheless. Thank you all for somewhat unveiling the consequences and road to healing
Sexual assault isn’t just penetration, touching you in a sexual way without your consent was sexual abuse. Being in a relationship with someone is not consent.
Have you considered calling a sexual abuse hotline?
so basically it wasnt the first incident so the first time I basically reported it as sexual harassment cos I was legit 15 and though sexual assault had to be violent etc. anyways the organisation that came to my school told me to come back if I was r4ped. I WAS 15. 2 years later this incident happened with a different person and I haven't reported it cos I'm still in contact with them and idk if anybody would believe me, maybe think its for attention