Is it normal to be scared of my boyfriend drinking

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When I was little my dad was always a drunk, he tryed to hurt me when I was little. He use to be my hero and now he goes out drinks and never comes home. When I was 14 I. Was raped by a drunk. My boyfriend promised me he'd never drink cause he knows whut I've been threw. And he got drunk one night and I found out threw pictures.

Do you think I have the right to be upset with him and scared he's going to turn out like my dad and tat guy...

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    not everyone that drinks is the same. it sounds like u really should have gone to therapy. on thde other hand your bf was insensitive by drinking and I can see how that is a disapointment. this is a tough situation. isnt there crime victims compensation where u live so u can be counselled?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I have a thing against alcohol myself. I hate the way people behave when they are drunk and have never drunk alcohol in my life.. It makes it kind of awkward at parties because I'm usually the only guy that isn't drunk. But I'm okay with it though..

    I kind of feel worried for girls though, because my country is one of the largest beer drinking nations in the world, and we also have one of the highest AIDS percentages as well..
    I swear, men here are like animals (the alcohol only amplifies it)

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  • foxie214
    12 years ago

    Follow your instincts on this. If his drinking makes your nervous he is not the one for you.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    Plenty of people who drink do bad things. But even more people who drink don't. It all depends on the person, and at least he wasn't drunk around you so as to scare you..

    I'm sure a therapist could probably help you in coping with your past a lot better than any of us could though. You deserve to heal... :)

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  • randomjelly
    12 years ago

    He is not the men in your past. The fault lies with you expecting him to make the same mistakes.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Absolutely, my dad was a drunk addict but he never hurt me. However, when I was little a boyfriend of my mum's was a very violent drunk and did some scary stuff, the police were called and he was arrested. I don't know how far he would have gone, but it pretty much traumatized me in a way... I've never trusted people who drink and I find myself very intimidated by them.

    I think what you went through is much worse, I'd be far more terrified if it happened to me... You have the right to be upset, I'd suggest (if you haven't already) talking it over again with him and let him know how it makes you feel, if he really cares then he should comply.

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