Is it normal to be scared of the world?

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I won't talk to anybody unless it's a one on one conversation..I'm scared to talk with groups of people. At work I don't ever say a word, neither do I at college..even if I know the answer or have a question. I'm so scared of people. I feel like in today's world everyone is so mean and condescending. Everyone has a mean sense of humor that I just don't get and don't want to be a part of. I feel so alone, like I just don't fit in with anyone. I say nothing, and do nothing day to day so no one has a reason to be mean to me. Even right now I've been up crying for hours cause I feel so alone and scared...I don't want to live here anymore..I don't even think I have to ask if this is normal..but is it? :(

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    Social anxiety. Been there still there.

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  • MostInterestingManInTheWorld
    11 years ago

    I don't always feel alone, but when I do, it's when I'm on my solo missions to space.

    Stay social, my friends.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    You're in college so go to student services and let them know you need help with a personal problem that is effecting your school work. They can steer you toward counselling or life skills coaching or what have you to get help with your fears. You don't have to live like that and you are doing so much to improve yourself (i.e. education). Take that step.

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  • iezegrim
    11 years ago

    I used to be like that too because I was bullied at school growing up. But I got over it. Here's what I did:
    1. Educated myself with a large general knowledge so I could talk confidently with anyone and stand toe to toe with them most of the time. Look stuff up you don't know on Wikipedia for starters. Watch documentaries. Watch the Daily Show and the Colbert Report. Read.
    2. Went on antidepressants to get rid of what was definitely an element of clinical depression, and could be in your case too. Saw a therapist.
    3. Put a lot of time, money and energy into my appearance so that I looked better than most people. People judge on appearances. This gave me confidence.
    4. Put myself out there socially. Social skills are like any skill - they can be developed and finely honed to perfection so that you are charming.
    5. Learned to be a good cook and put on great dinner parties.
    6. Found myself a wonderful boyfriend who I eventually married, with whom I have spent 20 years laughing and loving. Find someone you can have a laugh with.
    Good luck.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    I really hate group interviews you always have that person that speaks the most and wont shut up and puts other people down.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    It's sounds like a social phobia/anxiety. I know how you feel. I often find myself avoiding social situations because I just can't handle being around groups of people.

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  • STi
    11 years ago

    That's how I feel too most of the time.

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  • mysterymen3000
    11 years ago

    You need to get laid

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    We have nothing to fear but fear itself.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    This sounds like an anxiety disorder, acutely manifest and poorly manged. I would know, i have anxiety and it sucks. Like cancer it doesn't go away but it can go into remission. And, like cancer, life gets a lot better when it goes into remission. Get some help managing it, i reccomend a holistic approach- like cognitive therapy, meditation/biofeedback, and lifestyle changes- in addition to medication if u need it. Get help, i wish u the best.

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