Is it normal to be so afraid that your family is being hurt?

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I'm an 18yr old female. I was sexually molested my entire childhood until I was 15 by a close relative. A year ago my older sister told me that she was raped as well, by someone different. Since then I just feel so consumed by the fear that it's happening to other members of my family.
I'm one of the oldest of my generation, most of the children in my family are under 13. Whenever I see my younger family members, my cousins for example, I get really emotional. I don't try to, but I am always monitoring their behavior and trying to find out their situations at home (staying nights at their houses, seeing who their parents invite to the house, etc.). When I see them I have to give them a big hug and I never want to let them go, I'm just so scared that something MIGHT be happening to them, but I have to reason to think that. They are all really happy children, don't seem to have a problem in the world, their parents work hard on maintaining healthy relationships with them, and I've never seen anybody around their houses that set up any red flags, I just can't help but be afraid for them.

I don't know how to ease my fear. Is it normal that I'm so afraid for them?

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    Wow, I am sorry about what happened to you. I think your concern may be a little obsessive, but I think it is very sweet of you to feel that way for you family which means you love them very much and would never have them go through what you have been through. Being protective of them is completely normal.

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