Is it normal to be tempted to unfriend someone on facebook?

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I have this friend whom I have known for a few years. We were really good friends, but she moved really far away. We still keep in touch on Facebook. I am not trying to be mean, but it seems that 90 percent of her posts are about "FML," "I just want to cry," "I'm depressed and don't know what to do," these frowny faces...if it is not about her boyfriend it is ALWAYS something negative. I feel so tempted to de-friend her from Facebook because she is such a downer. I am not trying to judge her or anything, but she needs to keep in perspective that there are millions of people who really do have it bad in life. From what I understand she has good parents, a job, and real friends. I have "hidden" her, and occasionally I check up on her, but I always see something negative that she posted. Plus the guy she is dating has changed her, and not in a good way either. I can't bring myself to un-friend her because she is my friend, and she had been hurt by so-called "friends" in the past, and I want to be a true friend to her. But her constant depressive posts are annoying. I am not sure what to do about her. Is it normal to feel that way?

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  • NotFloydzie
    11 years ago

    Why not just telling her how you feel about it? I wouldn't have given it a second thought and just done it. But it obviously sounds like 1) she really wants attention or 2) she's really going through a rough time.

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    • Captain_Kegstand
      11 years ago

      This is actually exactly what I was going to say, good thought.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    The typical "Poor me" Facebook girl. I unfriended about 300 people, about 100 of them were girls like this. My God, the relief of not signing in to th at drivel is a breath of fresh air.

    My opinion, add her on MSN and delete her on Facebook. You can still keep in contact with her, yet won't have to deal with her annoying chronicles of "poor me".

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    • VioletTrees
      11 years ago

      Holy shit, why did you have 300 facebook friends?

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        I move around a lot. Not all of them I personally knew, but around 200 of them I did. Some randomly added me, and I sometimes randomly added people, some of them were people I thought I knew, though.

        Now I only have about thirty, deleted nearly most of them. I plan on deleting a few more, though.

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    • EbonyDark'nessDementiaRavenWay
      11 years ago

      Yeah my brother was like that but I hid everything he said

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      • VioletTrees
        11 years ago

        That was my thought too. You can hide what people say. I do that with people who constantly post religious and political stuff that I disagree with. I'm all for debating and learning about other points of view (it's an important part of how I learn and change my own opinions), but I don't want to do it with my relatives and neighbours.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Oh man I know exactly what you mean.

    I have a few friends that post nothing but depressing statuses, a few that post nothing but anti-randomgrouptheydontagreewith statuses and a whole lot of friends that post about the mundane shit that they do with their kids, how much they love being a mommy omg and subsequently posts about how their lives suck.

    But the funniest ones are the posts where my friends are criticizing random types of people (like sluts or non-90's generation kids or people who party) and say just nasty horrible things and then proclaim their love for God and their respect for everyone. The part that I find funny is that they have been where most of the people whom they criticize are at or otherwise have no room to talk themselves. It's like the pot calling the kettle black and I feel that I should be offended by the obvious hypocrisy but it amuses me instead.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    Normal. I want to delete my aunt because she posts sympathy updates about how 200 dollars of food stamps I'd not enough for her fat ass and she doesn't have coffee and had to wait a week for her soon to get paid so she can have coffee and food, subsequently updates us that no one feels sorry for her for that and a day later shares a photo about how people with food stamps can buy lobster and caviar while the middle class are suffering... Dumb.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    Fucking Facebook :/

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    If you want to stop seeing her messages, but you don't want unfriending drama or whatever, you can hide her statuses from your feed. It's totally understandable not to want to deal with somebody else's shit, no matter how legitimate their suffering is. You've gotta take care of yourself.

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  • emilydoll
    11 years ago

    I have so unfriended a "friend" for that I don't want to associate myself with someone who doesn't keep that to themselves or at least off Facebook, it was just too often negative and I'm trying to keep positive myself so yeah I'd say it's normal and I'd delete them for being annoying.

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  • midnatwilight
    11 years ago

    Normal. If you don't want to see all her posts, instead of de-friending her (it would probably really hurt her), you could unsubscribe to her updates. I did that to someone who kept posting only about their husband. I clicked the updates to "only important" instead of having her at "most updates" or "all updates."

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    The side with the most "negros"

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  • pambambam
    11 years ago

    I have a friend like that. She's so negative and writes the stupidest post ever. But she is my friend and to delete her would mean breaking our friendship up.

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  • nAt2017
    11 years ago

    It's normal, but I would caution you against it. Just tell her how you feel, and offer to help her if she really is depressed.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    I tempted to delete everyone who sends me those damn Sims Social request.

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  • alv1592
    11 years ago

    Maybe she needs someone to talk to. Send her a private message or call her and see what she says. I do agree that attention seekers are annoying though, and if that's all she's doing, you don't have to give her any attention.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    This is exactly why I don't have a facebook account anymore. Instead of explaining to people why I blocked them I'd rather say "got of sick of facebook". Which is very true, this site is terrible.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    11 years ago

    Most of the people I know on Facebook are just like her. Since you only see her on the Internet, unfriend her. They only get worse and telling them their posts are depressing won't change anything. If you can't bring yourself to remove her, then unsubscribe to her posts.

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    Normal, but maybe you should reach out and help her!

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  • Portal-Kid
    11 years ago

    Ur just an fen-b for even thinking about doing that maybe something is wrong in her life and you don't have to go around makeing it bad by doing that grow a fen hart b

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