Is it normal to be tired of going on about my rape?(venting.)

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I got raped about a couple months ago after a hard night drinking, and it was a horrible experience after I woke up in some strangers apartment, and had a bad time for awhile dealing with it all. it felt good to be able to vent my feelings by talking to people for awhile after the situation, but... I am tired of getting special treatment for being a victim of a sexual assault. I've come to terms with the fact that I was raped, and I accept that it happens too people who let their guard down, and I will be sure to avoid letting my trauma get to my head, but I have more important things in life then worrying about the same thing forever. They haven't caught the rapist yet, but eventually he will fumble up and get caught since he is only a human.

I've vented enough, and I feel fine now. I know hidden damage may linger, but it is a part of life. I am not going to let myself be walked over again, and I don't need to act like I am different just because I was attacked once. I am still me, and I am not in denial about anything, and I am not more aggressive as a result of the rape. I just am just annoyed this is a re-appearing topic, because I've done the recovery stuff, and it got repetitive to me real fast.

Some people act as if I am fragile, well I am not, because I have lived in hard times, and I pick myself up and move on... I am not saying rape is something that you should just get over casually, but I am saying everyone is different, and my method of recovery is to go back to what I feel is normal... sure I may look at some topics differently now due to a new and bad experience, but I still know my home is my castle, and I got a job that I love to do still, and I still have all the same interests... I am also mostly the same. I shouldn't be bothered with things I feel I don't need to focus on 24/7, and I am past the side-effects after taking time to mentally fix my damage(of course with help), but I am done fixing the damages up for awhile... I feel fine enough to live comfortably, and I don't need the topic being brought up right away when trying to make new friends, or certain folks threatening any of my dates into treating me right(my dad got a guy I really liked to consider me "just a friend").

I don't hate anyone for helping me through hard times and making sure I am okay, but sometimes a person may just want to move on... people need to respect that sometimes.

Anyone understand what I mean?

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  • TerriAngel
    5 years ago

    Totally normal.
    1 shrinks make their money by NOT letting people get over things.
    2 there's two kinds of people.
    A. Victims.
    B. Survivors.
    Victims live their whole life blaming any bad thing on one event.
    Survivors refuse to be the eternal victim and move on.
    They make their own life story.
    Pretty sure you know which party you're a part of.
    Best of luck.

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  • CDmale4fem
    6 years ago

    I have to say that for it happened that short time ago, you seem to have got past, over, and ready to deal with life again as it comes head on.
    I am sorry for what happened and I will pray you get justice. I'm male and 30 yrs ago I was in the navy and a female I worked with and myself were talking and we realized we both had been sexually assaulted by one of our supervisors . We went to another boss and we were told "he's being transferred in a couple of weeks." Word for word that is what they told us. So I dealt with depression for years because of it. After that I realized what women feel like after somebody does something shifty like that. BTW her and I never got justice.

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