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I have been in a relationship for 1 year. It was a very romantic relationship. I had given my all in terms of heart and time. She broke up with me last two months(8 weeks) without a clear reason. My pain and heartache is still as much. I can't concentrate to work. Al memories are still alive.
Is this normal?
Still hurting 6 months later and it wasn't even a relationship. Cut yourself some slack.
Yeah, it's normal, bud. It'll hurt for a while, a few months is somewhat too early to have lost all love for your ex but you'll make it through.
What you need to do is focus on what you can control. You will make it through this no matter what but you may not forgive yourself if you get past the heartache stage and look back and remembered how you handled it all. Do you want to look back and remember someone that moped around or look back and remember someone holding their head high and proud?
Dude 2 months is NOTHING. Could just as well have been 2 days.
It took me 4 years to get over my first love and he wasn't even a good person. I still sometimes miss how I felt for him but that's just because first love is a special feeling since you're experiencing something for the first time.
Sorry to hear that. It just takes time. Mourn it and move on when you're ready. Good luck.
Here after 2 years. And am super Good. It took me
3 months to stop crying
6 months to feel half normal
15 months to feel Normal
By the way I still miss her, sometimes much
But I have moved on and got a new and cuter gf.
I would like to update you on my health now. It has been two months to be exact after the last comment and four months after the breakup. The aftermath was too much overwhelming because
1. It was my first serious relationship
2. I developed codepedency issues throughout my childhood without knowing.
The pain has been my real teacher. For the last two months I improved towards healing because of four best decisions I took.
1. No contact: it has been now 45 days of serious no contact. No social media, I blocked her everywhere and asked common friends not to relay to me any info about her
2. I avoided influences like alcohol, etc
3. I avoided rebound relationships
4. I decided to face my self-esteem issues separately.
Now even though I can't say I have healed completely, I have made a significant improvement. The heartache often comes but my heart is synchronizing with my brain to heal me.
I will.update you gain after 2 more months.
Thank you
I think it is normal to be a little sad but work on making yourself happy and do not wait for someone else to make you happy.
People are vastly different in the time it takes to recover from a breakup. There is no normal estimation of recovery since there are so many factors that are involved in it. It depends on your outlook, your personality, how good the relationship was, how the breakup was handled, the time spent in a relationship etc.
1. I would suggest if you haven't already, block and unfriend them on all media platforms. Not because of them, but for yourself.
2. Remove all references and things that remind you of them from your room, your digital devices, social media, pc, etc. No pictures, no love letters, nothing.
3. Give yourself time to grieve, realize it's okay to feel these emotions. Don't try to fight it because it'll only make it worse.
4. Make a sort of close knit support group comprised of your closest friends and family members. Be open and honest about your feelings with them and vent as much as you need.
5. Realize that this isn't the end. Previous relationships and breakups are a learning experience for both parties. For example If I didn't have my first relationship I wouldn't have nearly done as well in my 2nd. Just know there will be someone else one day that will love you for you.
6. Take this time to recover and focus on yourself. Don't get caught up in why it ended. Just know that this will be an important experience for the next relationship. You are forever growing as a person. Distance yourself from the image of your past self, the person you imagine in those old memories are no longer the person you are today. Just like you aren't the person you were a year ago, 2 years ago etc. Nor are you the person you'll be a year from now, 2 years from now and so forth.
Probably, but if you can't function, and have become so obsessive about it that you can't concentrate then you need to seek help. If you are contemplating driving past their house just to see if they're at home, or find yourself wishing caller ID wasn't a thing, because you wish you could call your ex, and hang up then you have a serious problem.