Is it normal to befriend my bullies?

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Ever since I have memory, I was bullied. I was one year younger than my classmates, so I was quite smaller than everyone. I also had a very nerdy look... so basically, I was the perfect prey. I was abused daily, both physically and psychologically.

I never fought back, mostly because I was not strong enough and because I knew it would be worse for me eventually. So, I started showing indifference towards these people. I learned how to show absolutely no pain or distress whenever someone was doing something to me.

Eventually, people got tired of bullying me... and the weirdest thing happened: they befriended me. I don't know why or how... but one by one, I had these weird moments when the bullies were alone, and talked to me about themselves. I guess I was a good listener, because everyone started trusting me.

In my last year of school, my former bullies actually started protecting me from others.

Now, my closest friends are actually these people. They actually prefer not to remember how abusive they were with me.... some even went as far as implying that they were just "playing"... but well, I clearly remember that there was always cruelty in those moments...

And well, I just rambled about that the other day... and wondered if it is normal... so... do you think it is?

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    Maybe they just matured and grew up. I've noticed that the older I've got the more people who used to be bullies changed into just normal, semi-functional people. Maybe they felt bad about how they treated you and wanted to make amends for it or try to prove to you they're not bad people. It could be as simple as that.

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  • ifonlyuknew247
    10 years ago

    100% normal. This is *exactly* what happened to me, right down to being one year younger than my classmates. I was bullied on the bus, by my "friends", in schools and on the bus. However, I learned from these experiences just how amazingly strong I was and how weak they truly were as people, because that's why they were bullies in the first place (and it was always a group, never by themselves, hallmark of the coward). Good for you for staying strong, and ending up showing them how great of a person you are, and for them to try to be friends with you. I know so thoroughly how sad these people are.

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  • merkulov
    10 years ago

    Wow, had the exact same thing.. Got bullied in middle-school - was about 2 years younger than everyone. Not nerdy looking or anything, but just physically smaller and not very confrontational. Eventually somehow ended up being best friends with the #1 bullies in high-school. Crazy..I guess it was mainly because a) I got more self-confident in late middle-school and b) started doing drugs with those guys, which by middle/high-school standards made me cool.

    Funny thing is though, it's 4,5 years from high-school now and today I am physically and mentally a lot stronger than all those guys. I would fucking squash the shit out of them if they'd even think about bullying me.

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  • Nikkibitch
    10 years ago

    If there hurting kick there Ass!!!! Then you'll befriend them!!:)

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    Maybe they respected you because you did not run crying home. Maybe even at the end of the day they just started to realize they were fucked up you did not have any friends and felt bad for you.

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    One of my good friends actually use to bully to me. I prefer to befriend bullies, the way I see it, I'm pretty messed up so it's pretty cool to have a friend who's also the same. Although the reason why I befriend bullies is because I'm curious why they bully people in the first place so I've always asked my bullies "What in life made you this way?" The one's that gave me an honest answer are now my friends, the other ones just leave me alone since getting close to people isn't their style.

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  • robokid
    10 years ago

    It could be that they tealized you weren't affected by the bulling.

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  • Shackleford96
    10 years ago

    That is admirable that you could forgive them like that.

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  • Fabulous
    10 years ago

    I beat up kids with my cock. Eventually I befriended them..if you know what I mean. Although occasionally after banging I would cock slap them just for old times sake

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