Is it normal to dislike my girlfriend smoking weed?

You're powerless over whether or not she chooses to continue smoking pot. Just be honest and upfront with her, but understand and respect that she's not obligated to quit smoking for you. You do, of course, have the right to decide to quit seeing her if you like. This situation has codependency written all over it. Sorry, but I call em like I see em.

If you know she is a pot head and don't like it, why would you even bother to become her boy friend? It sounds like a disaster in the making.

What is this, the 30's? Reefer madness is over. Marijuana was demonized by the people in power because of racism. In the 1900's many Mexicans were immigrating to the US and bringing what they called marijuana with them. Cannabis was already present in many American medicines and was recognized for it's medical benefits and then the media took the foreign word marijuana and used it to demonize both Mexicans and Cannabis. People need to stop acting like smoking pot is some horrible affliction based on century old racist prohibition propaganda. Live in the now dude!

That is a good reason for her to not let your people know she smokes weed. It's a very easy fact to hide unless she blazes in front of them or before visiting them. However that is not a good reason at all to want her to quit - because other people don't like it.

I had a boyfriend once who wanted me to be more sociable with his family because they thought I was weird. I lost interest so quickly. To me that shows so much weakness. You care more about what people outside your relationship think than what you or she thinks.

Maybe if you come up with a solid reason, she will listen. But weed is becoming less frowned upon every day, it has medical uses and, if used properly it can be a very helpful herb. If it does have any negative effects on her (anxiety, paranoia, lack of motivation, costing too much) she will have to see that for herself before she takes quitting seriously. She may stop one day, even if she is a die hard pothead right now (I thought I'd never quit but now I only smoke on occasion and we'll probably stop completely someday), but that has to be her decision or she'll never be happy with you or her choice to quit.

Never get into a relationship expecting the other person to change. If you dont like something they do, that is your problem.

I feel strongly against pot so I have been in this situation. In the past no matter how I went about the conversation it did not end well. You have to be honest with your partner and yourself about what you can handle. There is a good chance at some point no matter what your agreement is she will smoke weed again. Either at a party or an old friends house. At that point how would you feel? Betrayed? Then leave and find a woman with the same morals as you.

I would ditch her all together. Drugs are for w-ores.

I didn't ask for all of you stoners' opinions as to why pot is not bad.

Your girlfriend sounds like a foolish pothead who will die of cancer before she turns 30.

I say, good.

I once had a girlfriend who smoked pot before and after work, as well as before bed. It was her crutch and definitely an addiction. I didn't have a problem with her attitude or personality while she was high, the only problem I had was it often limited where we could go and when. For instance, she couldn't go to after work functions, because she needed an hour or two to go home, smoke, wind down and then could be made mobile. Eventually I asked her to quit, it was a battle, but she admitted to an addiction and began to ween herself off from it. I became impatient and ended things. I believe she could have done it, but I didn't give her a long enough chance.

I'm currently dating a stoner who basically gets high every night after work multiple times until bed time. My problem with her, is that she is completely "dumb" when high, she doesn't even realize how ditsy and dumb she seems. In the mornings before work we have decent normal human conversations, but in the evenings, it is all 5th grade jive talk with no goal of accomplishing anything. I don't know if I see a future with this one, since she is very against any outside influences changing who she is. I haven't brought it up and don't think it would end well if I did.

If your girl is like the first one, weening down some or all, could be comparable to dating someone who has a few beers a couple of nights per week, which could be a great relationship. If she's like girl number 2, odds are, even a reduction will still give you someone you can't relate to 3-5 nights a week, keeping in mind, odds are she works so you'll only see sober her on occasion. If you can handle that, it might work. Good luck to you!

You have two choices, either stop seeing her or join her in her weed smoking activities. It really is not as bad as it seems.

I smoked pot daily for 14 years when my son had to start school I gave it up because I did not want him to speak about what his "old man" was doing at home!

I am normal, I have a decent job which requires a lot of mental thinking and calculation and my brain works quite fine. I would even go so far to say that I am above average intelligence!

Why do people always think that if somebody smokes weed they are doomed to failure in society? There are a lot of Judges, doctors, lawyers etc, who partake in some marijuana, it is completely normal!

So, I have kinda been in a similar situation. Sadly, I was really inexperienced and didn't realize that I couldn't change the girl I was in a relationship with. I tried and tried to tell her in a nice way like "hey I really just care about you blah blah blah" and try to support her in "quitting"... but basically all that happened is that she still did it, but just lied about not doing it to please me, and then that made me upset and then I basically got to the point of being like... "Weed or me? pick one". And that ruined that relationship. What I realized is that you can't make anyone change... and they won't change just for you. If she decides one day that SHE wants to stop, then she might be able to, but that's it.
I would say that if she smokes ALOT... like every day and she uses it as a way to deal with problems in her life, then long term that may not be a good fit and that could cause a lot of problems... However, if she just smokes every now and again, and you really like her otherwise, then I think the best you could do is try to accept her weed smoking and tell her that it would be helpful if she hid it from your friends and family for a while; And maybe one day, like you said, she might decide to kinda stop smoking it on her own.

It also depends on how much you don't like it. For me, I had a pretty big problem with it, so I probably shouldn't date smokes weed... but if you don't really have as much of an issue with it, it can work and I wouldn't let it ruin something good for you... but you probably have to just kinda accept it. Best of luck! And yeah it's normal haha.