Is it normal to expect friends to live up to their words?

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I'm a struggling college sophomore. I work usually 30 hours a week while in school full-time, and the pay's horrible. Most of my friends either have parents paying for school and living expenses. Some are like me and have to work to survive. My friends who have parents funding school never need extra cash. But my working friends are always hitting me up for money. It's $15 here, and $25 there--always with the same, "just 'til Thursday." And it's so they can go out with their boyfriends or for something else that isn't an emergency. I don't want to be a d**k and not lend cash to kids I enjoy hanging out with, but it's getting old never getting it back. I know I should just speak up, but whenever I've done it, hanging out becomes awkward or even ends.

Am I just better off without my friends, even if they're otherwise really cool kids to hang with?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    ABSO FUCKING LUTELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    They're not being good friends to you, they're leeches and they're using you.

    How hard is it to say something like: "I don't have that to spare right now"? If it's awkward when you don't let them leech of you, you need to find other friends and dump this lot

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    • AB1234
      8 years ago

      I agree with you. I live in the mecca of students, Boston, Mass, but everyone I meet falls into either camp: well-off so money's never an issue, or working-class schlub like me so they're always asking for cash & never payin' it back.

      Guess I could always apply for an apartment off campus this summer and get an easy indoor pet... Thanks for the words of advice! :)

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        That's all well and good, but you could also look at this as a valuable way to learn to say no when people are trying to exploit you: I certainly wish I'd learned it when I was younger, I'd be a lot richer now

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