Is it normal to fantasize my female friend being with me?

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We are both woman and have been friends since childhood, but recently I have been having sexual fantasies about her sleeping with me. Days ago she came over and needed to change clothes so I left her alone and then I knock if she was finished and she said yes but she was just about to put on her top and I just couldn't look at her straight in the eyes and just look elsewhere else and got out. I don't know why I fantasize about her so much but I just do. I guess I'm bicurious but I don't want to take a step closer towards her because I don't know how she feels about me and don't want to lose our friendship.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    Bring it up in a low key way as a general thing, not your attraction to her until you can guage her reaction.

    Good luck!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      What do you mean by low key ways? How?

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        You don't know what low key means? Subtle, understated, not blatant, vague .... make any sense now?

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  • Smellmam
    7 years ago

    Just do not keep going on fantasising. Do something hot and take her taste. Eat her pussy as early as possible

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    "I don't know how she feels about me and don't want to lose our friendship."

    So you'd want to be friends with some one that might end your friendship if she knew you might have bi tendencies and also find her attractive?

    Even the acquaintances I've had that didn't know I was bi didn't have a problem if they knew I thought they were attractive most ppl kinda like hearing that others find them attractive. As for your sexual leanings if shes into it great if not why should it end your friendship? I'm bi and I'm friends with straight girls it doesn't offend me that we aren't potentially sex partners why would the reverse be any different.

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    Have a "girls night at home" with her, you know, couple of movies, drinks, etc. before you get "too drunk" (say after 3-4 drinks) just casually mention that "some girl from work (whatever)" has been ogling you, and a couple of times has brushed against you a little too hard while squeezing past you in the break room, and you actually find it a bit of a turn on. That should be enough to get the conversation going without admitting you're bi for her badger.

    Good luck!

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    • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
      7 years ago

      Et tu Brutus? Et tu? I expected SO much more from you. "Bi for her Badger?" Really? She says raising an eyebrow.

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      • Tempest-au
        7 years ago

        I know, I know, but sometimes it's hard to find a new way to say "just be honest, be yourself, and good things will come your way".

        How about "That should be enough to get the conversation going without admitting that you are sexually stimulated by her - even though such arousal is totally healthy and normal and nothing to be ashamed of."

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        • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
          7 years ago

          Anything is an improvement on the "here drink this...funny thing happened at work today" approach. "Dear Penthouse, I never thought these letters were true until yesterday in the break room at work..." Lol

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          • Tempest-au
            7 years ago

            ROFL - Well, it would be nice if we were all comfortable enough with ourselves to just open up with "Hey, over the last few months you've been turning me on" to their best friend.

            Sadly, as most people are lacking in confidence and fearful of rejection, a couple of stiff drinks and an approach that allows it to be easily laughed off as a joke will probably be seen as "better" than a less deceptive one.

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  • NoNotJesus
    7 years ago

    Talk to her about it. If she is your friend one of two things can happen.

    1. She is taken aback at the fact that you see her in a sexual light and just dismisses it.

    2. She is bi-curious as well and you two end up scissoring in a taco bell bathroom.

    Either way, being scared of not knowing the answers will never be as satisfying as knowing the answers. Grow some metaphorical balls. Puff out your chest and tell her that you would like to party downstairs. Oh and Tequila. Lots of Tequila.

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