Is it normal to fear aging?

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Sadly, I find facing the mirror with apprehension painted on my face now.I have been recently (technically) separated from my hubby who is 9 years older than me.Without even dreaming of reaching this stage of total havoc, I am faced with suitors 11 years or so younger than me.Not that I am flattered or what,because the truth is I am greatly annoyed at the fact, but I dreaded the swiftness of days.

I fear growing old...Is it normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Why are you "annoyed" by younger suitors? Eleven years difference in age really isn't that strange, so why do you find it irritating? Do you feel superior to them? Do you resent that they represent the youth you've lost? What do you want to happen now? Are you concerned that there will be no available men in your preferred age group that would want you the way you are today?

    You don't need to answer me, but just ask these questions of yourself.

    You can look good at ANY age, but you have to make an effort to do so. Young people still have the beauty of youth, but they also spend a ridiculous amount of time maintaining their appearance.

    A jaded, bitter, been-there-done-that attitude will age you faster than cigarettes and sun-worshiping.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      It is because I have this notion that young men might think ,rather is thinking I can keep up with them.What if the time will come that I will no longer interest them?I know worrying what's gonna happen in the next few years is obviously overblown but it is reasonable ,too.Am I right?

      Thank you for making a very intelligent insight on the question I pose.It enlightened me somehow.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        Thank you for responding because I was curious about what lead you to that perspective.

        You are (maybe) raw from your divorce and don't believe you could withstand such a separation again in the future, so you are condemning a potential relationship with a younger suitor to failure. Why not think about it differently? For example, you could let go of the idea that you have to spend the rest of your life with one person.

        It's sort of like how people (in North America) use to believe that a person only has one career they choose, or fall into, at a young age and expect to stay with it until they retire. Today, it's common and acceptable for adults to change career paths a couple of times throughout their lives. It hurts for a while and then they embrace the change.

        You could apply this same attitude towards companionship. Enjoy Today without planning the entire rest of your life. You haven't been doing that and where has it got you? Very disappointed and jaded; unwilling to open yourself to new experiences that could bring you a lot of pleasure and joy.

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  • Crisp
    12 years ago

    Think of people who don't get the priveledge of aging.
    Get your image together and put a smile on your face..somebody may just fall in love with it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Yeah, I'm having a hard time with aging myself and I'm only 25. I still identify myself as the fresh-faced teenager I was and when I look in the mirror, I'm not that person anymore. Not old, but not that young anymore. And I get guys who want to go out with me who are 19-22 and I feel the age difference keenly for some reason, even though its just a couple of years.

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    Its normal, I think we all fear that once and a while.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You nust look good if the young'uns are chasing you! You should be glad. Anyway, age catches us all so don't worry too much.

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    Common. Hopefully well get over it. Worry will only age you. Embrace it.

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