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I know anxious people fear being lied to, and that could be partly it, but I just feel like nothing anyone says is true? Like people saying thy care about me, and it makes it hard, because it's ruining relationships.
No it's not normal. But I do live with two schizophrenics to take paranoia to the extreme, so maybe my opinion is skewed.
Thanks guys. I spoke to my boyfriend last night, because he mentioned he thought I was being a little distant. He was totally okay with me feeling like that, but reassured me everything was okay. I think I just have to suck it up for a little while and see how it all plays out. I suppose I'll find out in the end.
I can't remember who wrote the comment, because I'm writing this now and I can't see the names BUT, whoever mentioned the two truths thing about staying true to what you know or something like that, that really made me think. I like that.
Thankyou all so much.
You know, if you think people are lying to you, trust your instincts- it might not be anxiety!
words aren't reality. Words are chosen to represent reality. So, when someone says to you: "I love you" it could mean alot of things to them: They really want to be with you at that moment, they feel you are perfect, they have a need to be attached to you. See? Even when we speak (Think of yourself) we don't always examine what the real meaning is... So, don't worry about the words people are using, cause they can never really encapsulate reality. Instead, there are two ways to get at the truth in life: One: Stay with what's real to you. maybe the only thing that is real to you is going for a run in the morning. Fine! If that's all you can say, yes this is real, then depend on that. Allow others to be a mystery. They are probably a mystery to themselves, so of course they will be to you! Two: When it comes to human relationships, you have to make an effort to communicate. Clarify your fears, by asking people in a way that shows you are serious, what the truth is about how they feel. It usually gets you a little closer to something true. But one thing it will never do is fix it all. Relationships are always going to be messy. Problems are always coming up. You just have to learn how to enjoy the challenge. And if they are stealing your integrity (or you are letting them) get some space away for yourself for a while.
Lies are constant in our lives without them more pain would happen than if you were lied too. Truth isnt always the happiest thing to do infact truth can do more harm than good but never the less truth is needed you might not like the truth but the more harsh truth you get the more lessons you learn.
It's normal to think that way, especially if you've been betrayed in the past.
Take a chance and trust them. It can be painful at times, but it's so much better than being alone. There's my personal experience for you :]