Is it normal to fear dating because you know men perfer younger women?

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So I'm 36 soon to be 37. I have been on many dates with many men. So they aaaaallll feel that after time passes intimacy should happen sooner than I want. ALTHOUGH I know I want to make love, I find myself running from them because I know that after sex I will lose interest because of the younger women that are out there. I mean when I am on a date I stear away from sexual conversation. I always wear a suit or activewear depending on where we chose to go on the date....so I'm never leading them on. The dates are usually at a park, at the gym, horseback riding, at a camp site for hiking fishing and canoeing, or at a nice resturant.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago | pl

    Set your sites on guys older than you then you'll be the younger woman.

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    • agoodlovejoy
      7 years ago

      Thanks so much...wow
      why didnt i think of that

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      • mysistersshadow
        7 years ago

        You'll have to deal with other issues like ED if you decide to go that far. LOL

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        • unotmeir
          6 years ago

          hehe

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        • ben_doverowldrive
          7 years ago

          Nothing that Stendra or Cialis or Viagra can't cure.

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          • mysistersshadow
            7 years ago

            You'd probly know better about that than me.

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            • ben_doverowldrive
              7 years ago

              You said

              You'll have to deal with other issues like ED if you decide to go that far. LOL
              Dykes wouldn't know

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  • TrustMeImLying
    7 years ago

    But you're not even giving them a chance and instead kind of making that decision for them.

    Younger women doesn't always mean better sex just how attractive women doesn't guarantee great personalities. I won't speak for every male but certainly a few realize this as they age. Take as long as you want before having sex, but work on giving up that control.

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    • agoodlovejoy
      7 years ago

      I will do my best thanks so much for the support

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  • Shackleford96
    7 years ago

    That sounds like a normal fear. I don't think it should be something you have to worry about if you are looking for the right type of guys though. Also, those sound like some nice places to have a date.

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    • agoodlovejoy
      7 years ago

      They truly are. I guess thats why they agree to do on so many dates

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  • TN_Robert
    7 years ago

    I mean this, I don't know you so I have NO reason to lie! ANY man that goes out with a Lady and/or makes love to a Lady and thinks about a younger woman/girl IS NOT worth your time! True beauty is on the inside! I am 55 and can make love then do it again, although I love laying next to a Lady and touching her much more. Look for someone with old fashioned values, they DO NOT have to be old. As for ED, that is a marketing ploy by the drug companies, I could put a 20 year old to shame!!

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    • surreypro
      7 years ago

      Yeah, whatever, I'm mid 50s and you're either lying or, well, you're lying.

      First, yes men look at younger women. It's normal. Many of us have tried that path and figured out it's not worth it in the long run. We're old, they're not, and we generally have nothing in common. You need to accept the practical reality that men are wired to look/lust at women of childbearing years and you're not going to change that.

      Second, no, 50+ year old men can't do it like 20 year olds regardless of what TN_Robert says. Maybe he can but I doubt it. Anyway, 99% of men can't, and the 1% who claim they can probably can't either. Many of us need viagra/cialis to function well. Just deal with that. It's life. We don't like it any better than you do, and no it's not your failing, it's ours.

      Finally, if you know you aren't going to be intimate after a normal amount of time, you should tell the guy up front. Why go down a path you know will lead to mutual disappointment?

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      • daydreamer394
        6 years ago

        Stop using your "wiring" as an excuse, it's pathetic.

        Are you telling me that a 50 year old is so over-the-hill he can't get it up? I thought that happened aged 60. Damn.

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  • SirChazwick
    7 years ago

    I prefer older women than me. I woild take a woman who is 5 to ten years older than a younger stuck up girl in her early to mid twenties any day.

    You broadly group all men into one category and never give them a chance to succeed at being with you because of your insecurities. That is a very common but also very self defeating trait you have. You should probably work on your self confidence before you go on pointless dates with guys that usually go nowhere.

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  • agoodlovejoy
    7 years ago

    You are right. I do like the enjoyment of the outings. Someday I will make up my mind. But so far I had two exhusbands and three exboyfriends that all wanted to marry me. As they noticed that my life was stable they made it obvious that they'd rather take the younger women on the same outings as we had done together. Its like I had taught them how to treat a lady. Also the fact that the mistresses were younger taught me that the average man WOULD rather have a younger companion. Lastly I'm trying not to have had sex with more than 5 men my whole lifespan. Thats my ONLY insecurity. I mean at this rate I truly don't expect to double that number by age 66

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    • mysistersshadow
      7 years ago

      5? No wonder your not eager for sex at this point. Have you ever had incredible mind blowing body trembling can't walk to the bathroom afterward multiple orgasms? I don't know if 5 is a statistically large enough number to have randomly stumbled across the maybe 1 in 20 or 2 in 50 guy that can do that for you.

      But maybe you shouldn't listen to me I'm that stuck up 20 something that the every guy eye fucks and stumbles over themselves to have a chance with. And I'm competition becos both of the guys I'm with on a regular basis are in there 30s.

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      • daydreamer394
        6 years ago

        That's hilarious.

        It's really not about orgasms. For some of us, it's about love and not lust. I imagine you treat sex as an experience, and a man as a tool.

        I'm not criticising.

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      • agoodlovejoy
        7 years ago

        My pussy too good to fuck just anybody. Yes i have a high orgasm muscle or something in my pocket book. The men think they are doin such a good job and ....nope. I just get off like that plus I enjoy the feeling of my tight walls by not having sex. Makes me feel powerful to know what they are missing. You should see them during dates...they cant keep still and i have been told that my touch is comforting. So i will make love to a great man for me someday.

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        • daydreamer394
          6 years ago

          Sex does not loosen walls...

          I'm curious how they are missing something they don't know about, and presumably would find in another woman?

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        • unotmeir
          6 years ago

          And the best thing of all, is that you are not conceited!

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        • mysistersshadow
          7 years ago

          Uh... ok

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