Is it normal to fear sex after having a baby?

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I had a baby 9 months ago. Before I was pregnant me and my partner went to swingers clubs, had threesomes with men and women, basically did everything under the sun... 4 months after I had my baby up until now sex just didn't interest me. Even if johnny Depp walked into my room naked I wouldn't think anything. Ive just been crying and saying to my partner I want him to have sex with me, even though I dont actually want to do it. He had sex with me and I felt nothing. Nothing tingled nothing felt good like it used to. It was horrible. I just laid there crying, I wanted it to stop. When it was over I ran upstairs and couldn't stop shaking. It was terrifying. But why? I love him with all my heart... He is everything to me why cant I feel sexual pleasure anymore?? Its like my libido has just gone. Sex terrifies me now. Any advice would be good. Please no vulgar comments. Thankyou

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    It's normal in the sense that it's quite common for women to lose interest in sex after childbirth. Your hormones naturally change so that your main focus is on your baby, which is where h/she has to come with you for quite a while yet.

    However, your response seems more one of revulsion than lack of interest. Did you have a difficult time during childbirth? I assume you've ruled out any physical injuries, which means this is an emotional issue which you really need to take to an appropriate therapist or midwife before it becomes too entrenched. Having a baby is a huge change in a woman's life and sometimes for a while we can be just too tired for sex. Are you getting enough sleep?

    In the meantime, can you enjoy physical affection which stops short of sexual contact and preferably also give him sexual pleasure? It's important you don't lose physical contact with your partner while you sort this out. I hope he's supportive of you at this time.

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  • Rihyae
    7 years ago

    Yeah if a guy had to squeeze grapefruit out of his weiner and it split all the way back like a hot dog on a frying pan I bet he'd be scared of sex too.

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  • scumfuck
    7 years ago

    I feel for you, I really do. I just think you shouldn't be selfish (not assuming you are) and let your husband have sex with you even though it doesn't pleasure you. Don't worry about it, most likely you will get horny again.

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  • geronimo1966
    7 years ago

    Please just try to relax. Being sexual takes sexual energy and if it's not there right now then it's just not there for now. I fully believe that in time your interest in being sexually active with your mate will return so in the mean time go easy on your self!

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