Is it normal to fear this ?

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Is it normal that I have a really bad fear of abandonment.I have been in foster care since the age of two with a fantastic family who I basically seen as my own.I did however have frequent visits with my own biological family up until about 18 years of age.Then they didn't bother any more so I didnt either.I have never felt like I was abandoned ,but when I drink to excess and im with a guy I sometimes get really really upset if he leaves.I cant figure out why i act like this.When im sober im happy , and I dont have these issues.I know my foster family is there for me .Is it normal to get like this when i drink?I just throw myself at guys because i need that emotion and its a cycle that has really really messed up my life.I am going to get counselling but I really need to understand myself why I do this.My friends reckon its self abuse of some kind.But,I don't really know why I would do that?Is this normal??

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Based on 15 votes (11 yes)
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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Considering your life circumstances I would say it's quite normal indeed.

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    • Redcoats
      8 years ago

      Agreed.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Thanks.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    It's normal , I share the same fear . I want you to build your strength , make your choices wisely and don't be afraid to meet people but don't let this control you , this fear .

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Totally normal given your family background. Don't beat yourself up about this, just get yourself to the counselling you're already planning. You sound as if you think you should have it all worked out before you get to counselling, but that's what counselling is for, to help you make sense of your feelings so you can move on

    Good luck!

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  • daydreamer394
    8 years ago

    I'm sorry :(

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  • handsignals
    8 years ago

    When you find something you love, let it kill you.

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    • Emmajane123
      8 years ago

      what does that mean ?

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