Is it normal to feel ashamed that i go to junior college?

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I didn't do so great in high school but it would not have mattered anyway because I moved across the country to go to college and live and even my college classes from an accredited school did not transfer.

I have a good GPA now, my academic record isn't bad at all, but I feel like sh*t for going to a Junior College. I feel like the lowest rung on the totem pole, a waste of space for going to JC. When people ask me which college I go to, my heart drops. I am a good student with a good major but I am also dead scared of burying myself in student loans! I want the lowest debt possible in case I can't find my perfect, awesome dream job when I get out of college. I want to pay them off as soon as possible.

I am hoping to transfer to a university once all of the requirements that I can meet in JC for my major have been met, but I am still here and I can't shake the feeling that I will be a loser in society until I make the transfer...

Is it normal to feel shame for going to a Junior College?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    An oak was once a tiny seed and Rome began as an unwalled village made of mud.

    Don't be disheartened by the small beginning.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I've never heard of "Junior College" before.

    You shouldn't be ashamed of it. Be happy and proud of it.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with "junior" or "community" colleges.

    Unless you're Sheldon Cooper of course.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      LOL I know right?

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      • 1000yrVampireKing
        11 years ago

        You do not have to say what 2 year you went to. Just say want 4 year you attended. They only look at what place you graduated from.

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      • Shackleford96
        11 years ago

        <3 Big Bang Theory :)

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  • 048forlife
    11 years ago

    I'm very intelligent and made great grades in high school but i'm currently attending Forsyth Technical Community College to get my RN. Why go to a really expensive college and get yourself in debt if you can go somewhere cheaper and get the same schooling?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Why do you care what people think about where you are studying? I'm sure no one cares, of they do then their opinion isn't worth shit anyway. You should not be too focused on shit like this. Keep your eye on the objective and be proud.

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  • Mmmpfh
    11 years ago

    Nothing wrong with that. Don't listen to those snarky university students who pass comments about people in technology colleges and junior colleges. They're just sacks of flesh with sacks of cash. No sustenance.

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  • JustDave
    11 years ago

    Never be ashamed of trying to improve yourself!

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  • FocoUS
    11 years ago

    Do not be ashamed. You're a good student.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    I did good in high school, but still went to JR just to save money (and get a LOT of financial aid). I was never ashamed of going, but my first week of uni i did feel like everyone was better than me. Now i just feel like i have more to prove and for that reason i feel like i'm going to do better than many people who have been there the whole time. I also feel like going to JC hindered any chance of me becoming a university snob.

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Relax man. At least you're not squatting in an alley begging for change, unable to read the no loitering sign above your head. You won't be in JC forever right? Right.

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  • wigsplitz
    11 years ago

    Boo hoo. If you don't have the grades or the finances to go to a dream school, then guess what?? You don't DESERVE to go to one, you deserve to be exactly where you are and it's your own doing that put you there. You should be embarrassed of YOURSELF, not your school.

    It wouldn't have mattered if you did better in HS? WHAT?? Of course it would. It would've let you get scholarships and meet entrance requirements. You moved? Um...did someone force you to? Excuses, excuses.

    Newsflash, when someone asks you what school you go to, they're just making small talk anyway, they don't give 2 shits about your answer most likely. The fact that you care so much about the name of the school you go to speaks volumes...you're jealous, whiny and feel entitled. You think you're too good to be where you are, yet it's YOU who made the decisions that put you there. Hmmm...

    If you did go to a great school, you'd probably be here whining because there's so many students there who are so much smarter, richer and more athletic than you....you know, great schools attract the elite minds and bodies so how would you cope with being the 'loser' of your dream school? Better get over your issues or else that's exactly what you'll be feeling if/when you get to a good school.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      I moved because my Mom did not want me to leave the house. I was daycare for her that she did not have to pay for. She would not allow me to get a job. She had a knack for beating the living fuck out of me every time that I suggested going to college. It was move away to live with my family or join the military and I was inches from signing the contract before I got the offer from my family.

      I went to college in my state and even my college classes in which I made a 4.0 GPA did not transfer over to my new school. Just as well, those college classes inhibited me from going to university here in this state. It put me at 2nd tier enrollment and my grades weren't good enough at 2nd tier. I take full responsibility for that. I would like to inquire WHERE you saw in my post that I am ashamed of the school I go to. I AM ashamed of myself for having to go to the school.

      Jealous, whiny, entitled? Where did you get that from any part of my post? Where did I say that I am too good for Junior College? I understand that it was my decisions that brought me here, hence why I feel like shit.

      But thanks for the helpful advice, and assuming that I am a massive shit-head. I always appreciate it when you do. :)

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      • wigsplitz
        11 years ago

        Wait....you're full of shit. I know for a fact you've said you wanted to join the military but couldn't due to some medical issue, so how exactly were you 'inches away' from signing a contract if you were barred from enlisting? Not the first time I've noticed you lying either. That also just doesn't make sense when you consider you wanted to move away and needed money for college, because the military would've provided both of those things for you.

        That aside, I just got the impression you felt like you were above going to the school you go to. This line: "I will be a loser in society until I make the transfer..."

        AND...Now that I know it's you who posted this, I notice it falls in line with the tone of many of your other posts and just reinforces my initial impression. I'm sticking with that. You have to admit, a great deal of your posts revolve around your jealousy, your 'I'm better/smarter than you/this/that' attitude and/or having a pity party.

        I'm not trying to attack you personally, so don't think that, I'm just answering your question honestly.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          11 years ago

          I was going to lie. I had a history of mental health issues and I was informed that I could have not shared the information. I don't know if I would have been able to join the military after MEPS, but I was ready to sign the contract to give it a try. I did not discover my thyroid issue at the time. The contract signing was a hyperbole. I already signed all necessary paperwork and I was about to run it through to MEPs before my graduation so I could head to Charlotte for MEPs when I was told that my family wanted me to move to California with them. Face the possibility of being turned away from the military or possible future reprimand for concealing info or move to California? Hmmm...

          I don't know if I could join the military even now without withholding my medical records but after college I hope to look into my options of enlistment. I wanted to join the military and I know that it would have provided money for college however, it was the difference between a sure thing (moving away at that time and taking the opportunity to go to college which would have been almost guaranteed) and trying to go for the military but failing. I chose the option that carried the highest chance of success.

          ""I will be a loser in society until I make the transfer...""

          That is just how I feel. I'm sorry if you take offense to it. You can say that I am throwing myself a pity party or a superiority party if you want, and maybe to an extent in some of my posts it is true, but to say that my posts revolve around said qualities? That is your opinion and I respect it.

          "I'm not trying to attack you personally, so don't think that, I'm just answering your question honestly."

          "you're full of shit."

          So telling me that my posts revolve around my jealousy, self pity and superiority issue is not a personal attack? Telling me that I am full of shit is not a personal attack? I'd hate to know what constitutes as a personal attack in your eyes.

          I respect your opinion, however, I do not entirely agree. If that is the way that you take my communications then you are free to hold said opinion. Just because I do not choose to fully disclose the details of my personal life within every and any post and explain my reasoning so that people like you can assure yourselves of my integrity does not mean that I am "full of shit" as you say.

          It was nice speaking to you. Have a good night.

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          • wigsplitz
            11 years ago

            No, it's not a personal attack, you asked for opinions and you got them. If I were personally attacking you I'd be saying things I had no real basis in saying and doing it for the main purpose of insulting and hurting you, and that's not the case. I'm telling you the truth based on my observations. I know, you just wanted people to reply saying 'oh you're doing great, better then so and so, etc...' but if you don't want to hear truthful answers then don't ask and if you insist on asking then don't hate the person who responds honestly.

            IIN to wonder how skinny girls see me? (you want people to say 'oh you're not fat')

            IIN to use the search bar? (passive aggressive 'you're an idiot and I'm better than you' post)

            IIN to see working fast food as a last resort? (I'm soooo above that)

            IIN to talk to my boss about sex? (yet you wrote an essay on how you were SOOOO upset that you got sexually harassed at work before)

            IIN people who complain about drama bring it on themselves? (um, hello...)

            IIN fat women=curvy? (catty)

            IIN my mom is always so sick? (um, then how did she 'beat the shit out of you' and control your life as you claim?)

            IIN I don't want to make friends that are needy? (Oh the irony)

            And the GRAND FINALE...IIN she still blames her mother? (if irony needed to be defined, here it is)

            Please...

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            • NeuroNeptunian
              11 years ago

              I had to explain this to MissSorel once before. Some of the stories are about family or friend relations that I try to keep to a decent level of anonymity from any one of them that would use google search. It's a retarded tactic, I know, and a weak attempt at best and I probably shouldn't leave that stuff posted on my profile with my picture because, well, too obvious.

              I don't have a problem with you posting harsh comments. I also feel that I have the right to be able to act in my own defense. I understand your interpretation of my stories and if you wish to think less of me because of how you view my stories, posts and opinions then I leave that to you.

              Contrary to anything that I have said and you might interpret, I am not here to please you. Once again, I respect your opinions. I know that sometimes I need to hear this stuff in order to keep my perspectives in check.

              Interpret how you will, I actually DO appreciate what you are saying. But, in my defense...

              IIN to wonder how skinny girls see me? (No, I really DO wonder if I am the only person that wonders how very thin girls see me if I am thin and see girls that weight substantially more to me as heavy)

              IIN to use the search bar? (No, really. I wanted to know if it was normal to use the search bar. Although there is some passive aggressive "please use the search bar, dumbass" in there, the question is sincere)

              IIN to see working fast food as a last resort? (I worked fast food before. I hated it. My Mom works fast food, it sucks for her. I wouldn't want to do it unless I had to. I am a security guard. Honestly, how much pride could that alot me?)

              IIN to talk to my boss about sex? (Yes, I was sexually harassed at work. I fail to see your point.)

              IIN people who complain about drama bring it on themselves? (Yes?)

              IIN fat women=curvy? (catty = true. Like you're innocent of it.)

              IIN my mom is always so sick? (Different familial relationship, details still the same.)

              IIN I don't want to make friends that are needy? (Irony? I fail to see it. I don't want friends that hit me up for money or rides. It annoys me because I have little resources to spare myself.)

              And the GRAND FINALE...IIN she still blames her mother? (I do see the irony, however, I hold myself accountable for the choices that I have made, regardless of whether they were influenced by her and I do believe that her abuse was responsible for my having to leave. Take that how you will.)

              That's about all of the defense I am going to give. If you wish to continue, then you are free to do so. Once again, I appreciate it but if you're going to look for more reasons to prove my character as fallible then you have plenty of evidence to go on and by anyone's interpretation, I am a fallible human being. But if you want an apology for my weaknesses, you will not get one.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    I go to a junior college. I'm there because I myself did horrible in high school and I'm trying to get my credits to go to a University. It's nothing to be ashamed of. As long as you're taking a step towards your life and you're not doing drugs, having unprotected sex or anything that can ruin you for the rest of your life, you should be proud. Be proud you're not sitting at home doing nothing. You're going to school and it shows that you wanna make something out of yourself one day. You have to take baby steps, even it starts at Jr. College.

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  • keeka_renea13
    11 years ago

    Don't be ashamed. I also go to a Junior college and I didn't do bad in highschool but I didn't do as well as I could have. (Caught senior-itis early... Lol) I just think of junior college as a second chance to do better than I did in highschool.

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  • Lynxikat
    11 years ago

    I also go to community college. Should I be ashamed of attending community college, even though financially, it will help my parents in the long run? Should I be ashamed because everyone else in my high school that I knew and respected had enough money and were smart enough to go to their fancy four year college, and I didn't?

    If you're going to community college because your grades in high school were terrible, you don't really have the right to complain: you have no one to blame but yourself.

    And honestly, of all the people here on IIN, you're the person I would have least expected to be this ashamed of attending community college.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Lol i went to community college when i was 17.

    I was also embarrassed. Mainly because i was the only person who had to wait in the hallway when the teacher played certain movies lolz.

    I had friends that went to uni. They never judged me. The only judgement i got was the "how old are you?" question. Which is weird cuz it wasnt like i was 12 goin to college i was 1 year off 18.

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  • Seedlings!
    11 years ago

    Don't worry just enjoy it trust me u will miss it once u transfer and you realize everything was much simpler back there

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  • EndlessSuffering
    11 years ago

    You shouldn't be. For example; here JC is considered as the highest secondary school, other than University.

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