Is it normal to feel like i've failed at life (at 19)?

You just totally described my problem...

I commented on this before but I erased it. I didn't give the story a fair shake and I think you deserve a better answer.

Your friends are away at college and that doesn't make them better than you.

The first problem you're having is feeling alone for not going to a university. Although, it wasn't the wrong decision, you feel as if it is because your friends followed the "status quo" and you didn't

I had this same problem. I chose to stay and take on CC debt. It was more tolerable. Then, recession hit. I thanked god I made the choice I did.

As time progressed, my friends came home with college degrees in things that didn't even interest them AND a load of debt.

Second, you seem to have everything that's wrong with you figured out. You obviously know where the problems are, all you have to do is motivate yourself to fix them.

When you begin realizing you want to give up, push yourself! Set goals you want to achieve, like getting your license. I think that would be a huge accomplishment for you and help you get more self confidence.

Third, If you want friends, college is a good time to just talk to people. Anyone! There aren't many tightly knit "clicks" in college. Normally, everyone is just kinda going through the motions and keeping to themselves. No need to feel intimidated. These people probably want new friends as well.

A lot of people don't have jobs right now. Keep that in mind. It's a hard for everyone, not just you. You're not alone. It seems like the whole college thing is whats really bothering you. Don't let that effect the rest of your life. Take your time when figuring out what you want to do. Most importantly take it easy on yourself. Don't let anyone rush you or tell you you're living your life wrong.

sorry for the other post. It was idiotic. I hope this helps.

-francios

Are you passionate about writing? I don't know why you're dismissing that so readily - writing is a skill that can be applied to many different career paths. And either way, don't let money stop you from doing something you're good at or something you love.

Aww, air hug! I'm 24 and I know some of those feelings. To build confidence try doing things that you know that you are good at. Exploring those interest with others all opens up the experience. Alway recognizing your weaknesses in a total strength. Keep your head up :)

You don't know what you want to do, so find out. Better that than nothing, or continuing to wallow in self pity. If you like writing or films try that - even if they don't result in a career it's a learning curve, an opportunity to meet people, to gain confidence that you lack. Sometimes the best lessons are extra-curricular. Think of it as self-improvement, that is something to strive for, and each step where you think to yourself "I wouldn't have had the guts to do that a year ago" is a little success, a little reason to be proud.

I know exactly how you feel, but it's all a matter of perspective. You're only a failure if you allow yourself to continue to be unsatisfied and unfulfilled. Use your frustration as drive to achieve something. We're still so fucking young, there's so much to do and see!

Even though I haven't met you, I just wanted to say that you did not fail life. Far from it in fact. You are young, beautiful, and eager, many good things will come your way, just have an open mind and don't be too critical about things.

Smile

I’m the punsiher and this post relates to me on a personal level.

You haven't failed at anything. Your whole life is in front of you. You just have to be bold and reach out and grab it.

No story I've ever read I this site has related to me as much as this one. This is exactly how I feel except that I'm still I high school and turn 19 in exactly a month. Normal.

You can make quite a bit of money as a writer/author you know...

Drink a redbull, it gives you wings.

described my life perfectly im 19 a female and ive only had one job and i dont have a liscense yet either so dont feel bad ur def not alone u have to focus on ur confidence first

Couldn't have described my situation more perfectly myself. Don't worry your definitely not alone :)

I'm the exact same way, the only difference being the license (I got mine just before community college after failing two times). I honestly don't know what to say other then you're not alone.

I feel the exact same way, I only have a job because my friend helped me out and I don't want that same job for the rest of my life.. I'm going to school for zoology which I'm passionate about but I am so bad at math and you need calculus for zoology. =[ I voted "It's Normal" to your question but that is because I can relate to your situation, in all honesty though, I don't think it's normal at all.. I think I have self-destructive behavior.

Wow this is so weird. I'm the same way. I don;t understand why I can't find the motivation to try and take risks and do something with my life. It kinda sucks..I feel lame but that still doesn't change my attitude towards things..

i certainly feel you on this... pretty much everything you've stated i been going through.. except I'm an 18 year old male

Oh jeez.. that's exactly me right now!! (also 19) Except for the fact that I haven't yet started my community college. (going to start 2nd semester) I have no clue what to do either. Last year, life was so much more fun for me.. (finally met a good friend for me) Now, either my buddies moved away/back to their countries or don't want to talk with me. I don't have the best confidence.. and even though I have my driver's license, I don't drive very often. (I still need to be driven everywhere)

It's completely normal to feel this way. These thoughts keep on bringing me down.. "Why am I even alive??" xD

I really hope that my life will go a little forward once I start community college.. You should try to make some friends (I know it sucks- also socially.. bad.) But once you find some buddies (they don't have to be very similar to you) to just 'get out'. 'forget about your worries. your confidence will get a little better...

I know it's all easier said than done.. But I need to get through it as well. xD

You already know what you need to work on! And that is more than half the battle of moving on from where you are at! Just single out one of those things to accomplish and take baby steps each day towards mastering it! Soon you will be in a whole new life! Start with driving maybe! Good luck with your choices!

Yeah,that's when it dawns on you. I was your same age when it dawned on me. A bunch of years ago. Now i can at least pretend like it has not been me failing society it has been society failing me. Doesn't change much but it makes me feel better. IT IS ALL YOU SHEEPS FAULT! Just kidding. Or not!(showing middle finger)

You can not be a failure at life when your life has hardly begun.
I am 24 and am just starting to see an open space i can handle.
...You are 19 years old and already expecting too much of yourself...just take it slow, trust me, you have time.