Is it normal to feel regret about university?

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I'm in my final year at university studying a law degree and I've started thinking about my experience there and how much I've not allowed myself to enjoy it as much as I could. I was unconfident and had social anxiety when I started and it effected me quite badly. I tried living out because I wanted to test myself in the first year and it only lasted 3 months. This is one regret I have not being able to live out since that experience. My anxiety has meant that I have not been able to establish many relationships with people. I have made friends and met loads of people but I've not been able to appreciate it. Lastly I've not participated in many societies and competitions although inside I've really wanted to. To be honest I'm surprised I've lasted at Uni- I've enjoyed studying law but I'm scared I'm always gonna look back and think what if?

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    My anxiety was so bad that I dropped out of university, after having a pretty tough time. I rarely think, "what if?" even though I walked out on it and didn't finish. When I started working, things got better. Work gave me a kind of confidence that study never did.

    Don't regret what you can't change. Look forward to what is coming.

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  • Short4Words
    11 years ago

    It's not too late you know? Maybe move into the area (you're own apartment or basement of a home) And try meeting some people. You sound like you are pushing through your social anxiety, I have it too. So all I can say is this, try being more social, the more you do it, the better you get, and yes, you'll probably make a few mistakes on the way, but everyone does. Some people are perfectly confident but are really awkward or inconsiderate but you may choose your words carefully. Don't be afraid to try and be funny once and a while, or to stand out a bit, people are more accepting than you think.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Didn't do uni.

    In fact i have no educayshuns.

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  • plum6
    11 years ago

    it seems like just a few years ago people were able to enjoy their student life much more and really enjoy the student lifestyle. However, the current economic downfall combined with the rough job market and rising competition among students really intensifies the pressure on students to perform. I feel that because of this more and more people don't consider their time at the university as enjoyable. In my opinion it's not your fault that you are not able to fully indulge into what is or was considered the student lifestyle. Your environment is simply forcing you to constantly feel like you need to prove yourself.

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