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I am 30 and I feel scared that I am not married yet. All my friends are married or at least in a really great relationship. I always tell myself that I dont need anyone else to make me happy because I love myself. I have a daughter a home and good friends. Why do I feel so scared about being married of all things...
It sounds like within your social group the norm is to be married.... maybe you just feel more pressure or fear because you are the only one that isn't married. Maybe you just feel 'different' and you wonder if you "should" feel weird about not being married?
I think if your happy thats all that matters.
In my experience, the best relationships happen naturally - and usually when I have no desire to be in one.
It always seems greener on the other side, and its human to want what you dont have and when it seems too good to be true.... it usually is.
You sound like a wonderful person with alot to offer. You will find someone truely amazing... of course...... if that is what you want?
I think your perfectly normal, and try not to let it scare you!
it might just be the "grass is greener on the other side" thing. half your married friends are probably wishing they were single. and dont just rush into tryong to find the right person, youll find someone. and 30 isnt old either. youve got plenty of time. :)
Don't worry about it. A lot of people have been getting married late these days anyway. I'm 20 and I don't even have a boyfriend yet. I've already told my parents that I kinda think if I don't get married within the next four or five years, I'll probably be settling down later.
And trust me, there are so many people who are in the same boat. Even though you're surrounded by people who seem to be settled down already, theirs many who I know of that are just getting engaged at like 28, 29, 30, and so on.
I think it was a lot different in the past. My parents got married when they were 20 or 21, my sister got married at 24 shes 27 now, but my brother is 29 and he's not married. And he's actually not in a relationship right now. He's dating around. And it doesn't even seem to bother him. I know a lot of other people just from my job who are either 30 and single, or just settling down at 30. Don't worry, I promise you your not the only one, and I'm sure someone will come along.
Hello there... I'm wondering how life has been working out for you. Have you gotten married? Are you still single? Are you happy? :)
Still not married. Still happy loving my daughter. Thank you for asking!!!
Neither, but happy. I've had that anxiety before, but after about 20 years always in relationships now it's time to be alone. Checking in on old sorrows on IIN, hoping to bring some joy and/or find that old problems have been either solved or dealt with the best way possible. I'll share my wisdom now, lol, remember that when we are desperate we only find and settle for unsuitable partners!
Think yourself lucky!
You already have a daughter, why would you need someone else to look after? Get a dog, that's much easier!
My brother got married for the first time last week at 37yo, as did my pal from school at 47yo, my other pal has yet to tie the knot at 46yo and doesn't feel she's missing anything - except someone under her feet, asking her what she's doing, when she's doing it, why she's doing it and with whom she's doing it?
Concentrate on your child.
dont stress ive always worried about this to! my boyfriend and i are in a great relationship but he got an illness that will prevent us from getting married for a while.. i just say take it as it comes, if you want it that badly one day it will! :)