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I feel kinda sorry for asexual people, because sex is potentially one of the greatest joys in life, and they just can't get any pleasure out of it. Sure, asexual people can still lead happy lives, but in my opinion they can never lead FULL lives. I think that's really sad. IIN?
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Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to either gender. It doesn't necessarily mean they don't get horny or never want sex, and they are capable of enjoying sex. They can also feel romantic and emotional attraction to people (sometimes of both genders, sometimes only one).
And a reason not to feel sorry for them? It's similar to if you had a foreign friend who ate cow tongue or locusts or something strange and exotic like that, and they tell you it's delicious and you're really missing out, but you just really have no desire to eat an insect.
I feel sorry for them too, only because it makes finding a romantic partner who wants the same things that more difficult. I mean the majority of people want an active, fulfilling and consistent sex life. That means an a-sexual has to find either another a-sexual, or somebody very tolerant with great willpower, that they are emotionally attracted to. That narrows down the options for prospective partners significantly.
I don't feel sorry for them in the same way you do, though. I don't think sex is a necessity to live a 'full life'. If you don't want something, the absence of it doesn't matter.
It's a common misconception that asexuals are virgins. That is completely untrue. Asexuals have the ability to and do have sex if they choose to.
This question seems to ask that you pity asexuals because they don't want to or can't get laid.
1. See common misconception above
2. There is nothing shameful about not having sex (prude shaming is just as bad as slut shaming).
I thought I was asexual at one point, but I think a very low sex drive would be more accurate for me.
However, I don't think they should receive pity. Sure, sex may be a great feeling, but so are fatty sugary foods when eating, and if you for some reason could not find joy in eating those foods, you benefit from it.
It's kind of like sex. So many people put a large amount of their time into it or around it, or have their mind about it, but if you didn't spend the time you do concerning yourself with such a thing as sex, then that space and time you used for sex could be replaced by something far more productive.
There is nothing wrong with being asexual or not being asexual. I think that the majority of people that think they are asexual tend to not be asexual, though, just say it to seem somewhat unique, or simply didn't think enough about it like I didn't, as I thought I was asexual, but I am more convinced I simply have a low sex drive, not a depleted one.
I lack the standard sexual drive but I'm not sure if I am a qualified asexual. Besides, I try not to adhere to labels.
First off, you say sex is something truly amazing and that due to low sex drive they are missing out on this opportunity. They would not really know what this opportunity is as they often do not have the desire to try. So missing out on something is subject to a person's interests and desires.
Second, your definition of a full life is extended only to your definition and not others. Not being able to experience something most people deem as a fulfilling event doesn't subsequently draw a person's life as incomplete. Deaf people cannot hear, does that mean they are not or cannot live their lives to a full extent?
I'm not trying to be argumentative and feeling sorry for asexuals is not uncommon being derived from empathy but I just hope it doesn't justify you thinking that they are living less of a life than you are. Plus, there is more to life than sex.
I kinda disagree; if someone doesn't crave for sex or even a relationship, it's fine if they're happy that way. I have considered the possibility of being asexual, but idk...I like guys but don't crave for sex much. It's rare for me to even have a crush on someone. I have one now, things are fine between us but I'm afraid that if it doesn't work out I won't find a new bloke who is of interest to me. Unless a young Mark Harmon clone exists haha;)
Yeah. You said it yourself, you think we're missing out on something great so you feel sorry for us.
Yeah, I've read about people being asexual and we're having a discussion about it but I've never actually known a person who claimed to be asexual.
Because for a persons whole sex drive to just...well...not form....is rare as can be.
I've never met a person who claimed to be asexual either, if I did I'd be most likely talking to a liar. If there's something "different" that people can use to "feel special" they jump on it. I'm sure there are plenty of "BI" people out there too, but most of them that I've met were total fakes.
Because without sex life is less complicated. If being asexual was a thing a person could turn off and on it would be awesome.
"Because without sex life is less complicated."
True, but without sex life is also emptier.
holy crap im asexual.
lol nah. i like sex, and im attracted to men. i just dont think sex is as important as a lot of people make it out to be. our culture is just a BIIITTT obsessed. god it's annoying. like get over yourselves, it's awesome, but so is a good burger. mouthgasm.
Precisely. If a person has never had, known or wanted something said person cannot miss that something.
True, but how I experience things and how an asexual person experiences things is both subjective. Objectively speaking, there IS an element missing from their lives, whether they think it matters or not.
you must be for sure the typical douchebag. asexuals dont need to have sex since they feel nothing by doing it and im pretty sure they dont need your pity.
I want to be asexual. It would definitely solve most of my "unwanted boners at the most unfortunate times" problems.
Why would you? It's not like they're sad. They're HAPPY not having sex. I'd feel bad for an asexual person who WAS having sex, cause they probably wouldn't be enjoying it very much.
Here's an analogy. Guys are apples, girls are pears. Some people like apples, some like pears, some like both, some don't like either, some had bad experiences with one or the other. Hell, some might even be allergic (people can be allergic to semen, I'd imagine people can be allergic to vaginal fluids too).
Now, you wouldn't feel bad for a person with different preferences. Why would you? They're happy, you're happy. All is good.
There have been lots of great responses here, but I thought I'd tack on my bit and agreement. I voted "normal" because I know that lots of people feel this way. That said, I don't think that it's the right outlook. For one thing, some asexuals do have sex. Asexuals who don't have sex don't want your pity, though. Pity our oppression or the difficulties we have finding romantic partners (those of us who are romantic); we need more support and awareness.
I wish I were asexual! Life would be a lot simpler if I used my head more than my dick.
Would somebody who masturbates and gets pleasure from that but isn't attracted to people count as asexual? If you think so then you're full of shit because that's my situation and my life is not empty at all, if not, I get what you're saying, but that still doesn't mean they have an empty life.
"Would somebody who masturbates and gets pleasure from that but isn't attracted to people count as asexual?"
That's an asexual.
Asexuals don't feel sexual preference to either gender, they are quite capable of feeling horny. Some even have huge sex drives, they just don't think of sex to get them off. Kind of like staring at nothing while masturbating?
"Would somebody who masturbates and gets pleasure from that but isn't attracted to people count as asexual?"
Border case.
"I get what you're saying, but that still doesn't mean they have an empty life."
I said EMPTIER life, not empty life.
Just because someone doesn't feel the need to have sex doesn't mean they do not lead full lives. Sex is not part of what contributes to fulfilling your life at all. Some people enjoy it/need it and others don'. You should feel happy for asexual's as they do not NEED sex so they don't suffer the consequences for it either.
All people are different NOT everyone enjoys sex let alone is the best thing in the world. It's kinda like a bisexual person saying 'I feel sorry for straight people, being bi is the best thing in the world as I get the best of both worlds'. That is simply ones opinion on their sexual interest and how they feel towards the matter. Not only that but it's like trying to persuade a straight person into being bi, if they are 100% straight then you can't adamantly state that the best thing in the world is being bi, a straight person knows what they like and knows what they don't like even if they have not had sexual encounters with the same sex. So I'm trying to say is that asexual people don't need to have sex so they can say 'it's the best thing in the world'. Asexual's know that it isn't to them and therefore do not need to experience it, therefore you do not need to feel 'sorry' for them as they don not need the credulous pity.
I'm not really sure what you mean since from what I remember a sexuality is being able to reproduce without sex. If you mean sexless people, I believe that they just haven't met that special person.
Asexuals are people who aren't sexually attracted to either gender but are capable of having sex. Google it if you like.
well you shouldnt have sex just to have it, you should have sex with the one you really trust
Id say your the one that's not normal for thinking that sex is the best thing in 'life', I mean come on man! I feel sad that u think this way :(
because, you think that sex is the only best thing in life, that makes me sad for your loss on life's greatest opportunities.
how is that not an answer, ofc it's an answer- I feel sorry and sad that you obviously don't know what life is all about, but then again u must be young and ignorant so I am not going to be too harsh on ya :)
sex might just be their favorite thing in the world. nothing wrong with that. as long as they're with consenting peoples.
No, it's NOT an answer. If I genuinely feel sex is the best thing out there, you should respect that. You shouldn't arrogantly imply that you know so much better what life is all about.
Be as harsh to me as you can BTW, you have no power over me whatsoever.
Well, if the frustration about not having sex lead to people killing themselves (which sadly HAS happened quite some times in history), then in a way people DID die from not having sex.
actually they died from their angst, which was caused by their sexual addiction. cause sex doesn't have any sort of health benefits the same way eating enough, drinking enough, and sleeping enough does. sex is nice, but it's not necessary to anybody's survival.
sex addicts FEEL like it is, but that's just overreacting to common discomfort.
I could totally kill myself because of sex starvation. And before you say it's a stupid reason you simply don't know how much I hate the usual rat race that life is but how occasional sex and the hope for just that one more shot of it is probably what has kept me around so far. I guess I'm a sex addict. People never value what they easily get though.