Is it normal to find it exhausting to hang out with your friends?

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I find that hanging out with my friends after a certain point just gets exhausting. They talk about things that I don't really care about and I have to act like i'm interested and agree with what they say just to keep the peace. I find they talk about themselves a lot and that my thoughts are kind of swept underneath the rug in favor of what they want to say. I just find that I have to sacrifice what I want to do or my ideas and values whenever I hang around certain friends. It just feels like certain friendships that I have are just a constant battle of maintenance rather than friendships that I actually value and cherish, despite knowing these people for basically all my life. Even the people I enjoy being around can sometimes get on my nerves. The thing is, everyone around me seems like they wouldn't understand this. Most people seem like they have a set group of friends that they enjoy being around no matter what. Does anyone understand where i'm coming from? I feel like an island honestly but I don't want to be.

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  • xeus
    3 years ago

    Best friendships are those which require no maintenance. I only have like 4 close friends.

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    • Lobo24
      3 years ago

      By all accounts, I should consider these people my best friends, but I find it so hard to connect with them. Conversations have become so repetitive and stale because they literally only talk about sex, drugs and warzone, which I can only talk about for so long before I get bored. I do have another group of friends who I connect with and love being around way more but it's difficult just dropping my other friends for them.

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  • TheOishome
    3 years ago

    I relate to this a lot my friend, what I did? I cut those people out of my life, I have friends I adore now and i plan to make more. Step one in that situation man is to seriously drop them as friends find people that you can actually get on with

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    • Lobo24
      3 years ago

      It's really difficult to do that because they are not bad people. I just feel like we have nothing in common anymore. Our interests, values and worldviews just don't seem to line up anymore but I feel that my interests, values and worldviews don't add up with most people. Conversations get really repetitive and stale because they only talk about 3 things and if you want to change the subject to something different, they will bring it right back to same 3 things.

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