Is it normal to find this type of friendship bad?

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As I'm getting older I'm starting to not want to put up with things I've put up with from a friend, as I'm trying to better myself. In the past I'd go months to a year with little to no contact, needing to refresh myself of them. As far as a friend they'll include me in hanging out, inquire me about job openings, spend a minimal on food and drinks when we club, and will trust me in their home. But I've done the same or more, as far as giving/spending. Also, the problem with our friendship isn't about feeling used or betrayed, its moreso about respect and consideration. Towards me or anybody they're comfortable with, they're blunt, competitive, antagonizing, inconsiderate of a person's feelings (unless its someone they want to impress at the moment), and if they know they've said something hurtful they'll taunt you (testing you). And they will arrogantly rant louder in a coversation to inforce their opinion. Most of it is petty. Sad part is they are aware and content with their ways.

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  • xanonx
    7 years ago

    You don't have to put up with that kind of behaviour. It's better to be alone than be surrounded by people like that. If you don't like being alone, maybe you should go out and make new friends :)

    Move away from all the negativity in your life, everything will be so much better

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  • xanonx
    7 years ago

    You should go out and explore the world and come across new things with new people, don't let your friends hold you back

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    It's normal to tire of screaming assholes.
    ;-)
    Normal if these are people from back on the block or you've known these folks since high school or college. People change, and it sounds like you're evolving and changing for the better.

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  • DuHast
    7 years ago

    Life's too short for assholes like that.
    Sounds like the type of person you'd have a soft spot for (a soft spot out in the back garden after you've clubbed them to death with a blunt object).

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  • Cocktimus_Prime
    7 years ago

    You sound like you have a bunch of crazy ideals that people should adhere to if they wish to spend any time whatsoever with you. Did it ever occur to you that these people are just being themselves? If you don't want to hang out with them or have all these complaints than don't hang out with them.

    I would hope they are content with their ways. That is called being mature and accepting yourself for who you are. If you feel you are getting used by people than don't hang out with those people OR just use them back for whatever utility they have.

    It's a use and be used world. Grow the fuck up already.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I don't mind people being themselves. But when they do it at my expense just to make themselves feel good is immature on their part. I use to joke along with them but they turn me joking into their way of making a clown out of me, instead of us just being two friends having fun. And the humor that we use is their sense of humor. So I'm not being MYSELF around them. When the joking is over I treat them normally but they still see me as a joke because that's what role they want me to play in their life. I notice they act stupid with me but when another friend comes around that may not have their sense of humor they switch up their act, and try to dictate me into doing the same. So its not an issue of me placing my ideals on others. They know they'll look like an idiot to another person acting the way they act. Thats why they act this way around me because I deal with it more. I see them change their personality to a calmer more respectful one when certain peers are around. So you're wrong.

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      • 8=====D~~~
        7 years ago

        If you feel you aren't able to be yourself around them, than you aren't comfortable around them and shouldn't view them as friends. You are looking at them as how you "want" them to be, instead of them just being themselves. Even if you seem to have it all figured out, and they change their personalities as you claim to see them do.

        This is still them being themselves. What do you not understand about this?

        Friendship is defined differently by different people. Just because YOU define it one way doesn't mean others agree with that.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          They can be who they want, and I'm fine with that. They don't take me seriously as I AM is what I'm saying. Theres away people can be different but respect eachother. It's about respect. Respect is exactly what it is respect. If they give it to others and not me I'm suppose to accept it? I I like certain things, and they'll call it lame. They like stuff, and I'll either pass or end up liking it. The only time they'll like something I like is if they discover it first or if it relates to them. If I diss ANYTHING they like they'll get offended or think I'm close minded, when many things I'm interested in now is because of them. We like music, and I'll tell them about a song I know they may like. They'll say something rude about it. Weeks later, they may find it for themselves, and then act upset when I'm over that song. And we can never agree because they like to be right. Though they'll agree with others and take others advice. We're too old for childish mind games like that.

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