Is it normal to follow a strange looking man home at the age of 17 ?

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I'm 17 I was on the bus going home and there was this guy also on the bus he look to b in his late 30-40, I find older man attractive so this man got of the bus and the same stop that I get off I than followed him home and he only lives a block away from me! I can't stop thinking about him now... he looks so creepy and mysterious and uhhh I just think he's really cute and now I really want to see him again. Is this normal for a 17 year old girl to do

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Avant-Garde

11 years ago

Its normal to be curious but you could be getting yourself into danger. The man is a stranger who could be capable of anything. You really need to be more careful.

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- Aewe101
  
  11 years ago
  
  Yeahh I know I am a very curious person, and well he didn't notice that I was following him, I also felt very safe because I feel just because he looks strange doesn't make him a dangerous person,
  for all I know he could be an amazing person. I live in a pretty good neighbourhood and if he was a bad person I don't think he would be living around here. Or maybe I Just have to much trust in people I don't know and I don't feel anyone one could do much danger to me because it has not ever happened before.
  
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  - Avant-Garde
    
    11 years ago
    
    You're still being unrealistic. Living in a a good neighborhood doesn't automatically mean that someone is a safe person and vice-versa. Just stay away from him.
    
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    - Airstreamlover
      
      11 years ago
      
      Agreed, that was such a sweet clueless naive gullible thing to say. You wouldn't be the first to think something like, "he lives near me in my nice, suburban, white-bread upper crusty world means he must be safe". How many people have thought that just before they were mugged, or their car stolen, or their family member killed. Sorry to be abrasive but honey please, you need to think more deeply.
      
      And of course, it's not really all that likely that becasue he looks different that he is a weirdo. The point being that you have absolutely no idea. It sounds like you might be lonely, and my suggestion is to get a hobby that puts you in contact with people on a regular basis.
      
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      - Avant-Garde
        
        11 years ago
        
        I'm sorry but did you mean to reply to the OP instead. Its just from the direction your comment is going. I'm naturally a paranoid person so it matters not to me where a person comes from. If they are a stranger I will automatically be distrustful of them.
        
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    - Kerry69
      
      10 years ago
      
      Amen.
      
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    - Aewe101
      
      11 years ago
      
      But just because someone doesn't fit the stereotype of a normal looking man doesn't mean that he's not, what if thats just the way he like to look like and act, And okay yes I am going to stay away but not because I'm afraid to be around him but because I don't really see him around much , but if I did I wouldn't mind being around him. Why are people so quick to judge someone by their appearance.
      
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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

Stupid cunts these days with their daddy issues. Personally, I don't understand it in the slightest.

Anyway, have fun being raped.

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- Aewe101
  
  11 years ago
  
  Okay yes,you don't understand my way of thinking,and that's fine with me I don't expect everyone to, mostly it's because people think when two people are in a relationship were there is a big age difference, it's either a older man that is trying to take advantage of a younger girl or like you said a "Cunt" who wants an older man (umm her "Daddy") so that he can maintain her and pretty much live off his money.
  That's is not my intentions and if it seems that way well I hope i clear some things up.
  
  Also you made a statement that yes there's always the chance that yes I could be in danger when dating someone older, like being raped or ending up in a abusive relationship. But I'm not an idiot I know exactly what I want when it comes to relationships with older men and no it's not money, or sex or what ever else someone might think.
  
  Also I feel like now a days younger guys are the ones going around raping people and being abusive it's not just older men.
  
  I just want to be with some who is mature, has goals, and knows what their doing with their life, and also I honestly just really find older men Very Attractive, everyone is different and what we think is attractive in our eyes differs with every person. Sadly non of the guys my age have this mind set because well their young.
  
  I don't plan on dating an older man any time soon, maybe a year from now when I'm older and I'm consider an adult in society than yes, that's when I'll decide if dating someone older is chance I'm whiling to take.
  
  Hopefully your now some what understanding of why I chose to want to have a relationship with older men,if its still not clear than I'm sorry I don't know what to tell you.
  
  As of me following a strange guy, being "curious" XD lets be serious i was just being plane dumb.
  But do I regret following him?
  No because this has in lighten a lot of my thoughts on what I want for the future when it comes to relationships with older guys.
  
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nelly96

11 years ago

Sorry, but regardless of how old he is, it's not normal to follow a stranger home. If he looks crazy, there's a good chance he is, this is really dangerous.

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lufa

11 years ago

lol, why couldn't more girls be like you? :)

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moviecollector1983

11 years ago

What @ Avant-Garde Said...

It's normal to be curious about another person or to think a guy or girl is cute looking or pretty etc. But once you start taking that next step of following complete strangers home male or female that could be considered along the grade lines of stalking. Which is not cool or good or any form of word you want to give it. I watched this tv show on Netflix once called Stalked and that show was interesting yet down right scary at the same time.

So really just be careful and don't trend into this path of what you are doing now of following this guy home. The lines of inter web and reality can too easily blur together it's hard for some people to know which is which and that's when it becomes dangerous.

May God Bless You

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- Aewe101
  
  11 years ago
  
  I don't feel like what I did was dangerous, because It wasint. I at no moment felt like this man Was a harm to me. But you have a good statement, it's become very clear to me now that stalking someone and invading there personal life is not "Noraml", :) And no offense but "God" will not be blessing me.
  
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KeddersPrincess

11 years ago

I used to follow a guy around and he threatened to put a restraining order on me. This is true.

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- Aewe101
  
  11 years ago
  
  That sucks, he must of really not have liked you , was it because he had a girl friend or wife?
  
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  - KeddersPrincess
    
    11 years ago
    
    No. This was in high school. I don't think he had a girlfriend, but I was a bit of a creeper back in those days. I won't deny. I stared at him anytime I got the chance and figured out information about him that I know I shouldn't have known. I was a naive teen in those days and, hopefully, I've grown out of that kind of behavior. I haven't had an attainable crush since then, so I don't know.
    
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    - Aewe101
      
      11 years ago
      
      Ohhh I kind of see were your coming from, i'v only ever like one guy. he's two years older than me, but I talked to him, mostly over the phone and I only saw him in person ever so often. We were just friends. It's been about a year now that we just don't talk as much, before I'd just feel so sad that I'd text him, and I used to follow his face book because I wanted to know every little thing about him. But it's been about 4 months now I just stooped following him on Facebook and deleted my FB and i also deleted his number because he obviously has no interest in me any more and I'm sick of thinking about him all the time and pretty much stocking his life.
      
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- lufa
  
  11 years ago
  
  I guess he got creeped out. I think it could be pretty unnerving for a guy too. It's not so much that I'd be afraid of the girl (since obviously I'm bigger/stronger than her), it's her intentions that I'd be concerned about.
  
  If she was cute and found me attractive I'd be interested. If she was ugly/weird looking then I'd be scared. lol
  
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  - KeddersPrincess
    
    11 years ago
    
    Nah, I was crazy back in those days. All I talked about was death and blood. I actually kind of understand him. And then on the side of that, I literally stalked him. I knew his birthday, phone number, mom's name, what bus he drove, who he hung out with and where. I will not deny being a bit of a creeper. Still was heart breaking though.
    
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    - lufa
      
      11 years ago
      
      Sheesh, why didn't you just tell him that you liked him? I think that would've put him at ease. Or maybe if you were a Goth type he wasn't into that.
      
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      - KeddersPrincess
        
        11 years ago
        
        At that age I was very timid, and had a hard time talking boys that I liked. I'm still very timid now, and I haven't had a crush on a guy (who is attainable) since then, so I really wouldn't know. But, yeah, I will not deny regretting my past. I'm sure that if I would have talked to him from the get go, it would've been a lot different. I sure hope I don't repeat myself again, and that I was only like that because I was a teenager and immature.
        
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        lufa
        
        11 years ago
        
        It's interesting on the one hand how we paint strangers as being these very scary characters (and they can be), but sometimes they're just really innocent and shy. It's unfortunate that he misread you.
        
        Reminds me of this girl I liked at my previous job who used to flirt with me a lot and we talked about dating but I think she got the wrong idea and thought I wanted to bang her, she got pissed off and things got awkward between us. Truth is that my intentions were innocent but she never gave me a chance to clear the air.
        
        I can relate with what you're saying. Although I've dated a fair number of girls, I too still get shy sometimes around girls I like. But it just comes down to summoning your confidence and communicating well with the other person.
        
        I think girls get a bit more leeway-like if you told a guy you're shy or nervous, he might warm up to you. But a guy couldn't really say it without seeing like a virgin/nerd. :P
        
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  - Aewe101
    
    11 years ago
    
    I don't know it's something about knowing that a man is older than me because I'm still so young , and knowing that they might be a crazy person makes me happy most girls would want to stay away but I just want to follow them home and be around them 0_0
    
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    - lufa
      
      11 years ago
      
      lol you're cute, but I'm not sure where you got the idea you'd be safe around a crazy person. Some of them can actually be very dangerous.
      
      I'm an older guy and I like younger girls so we're on the same wavelength. :) I've done some stupid things in my time but because I'm a guy I can get away with it. As a girl you really should be much more careful.
      
      Heck if you want to be around older guys, there are easier and safer ways of doing it. You really need to check them out too-meet them in a public place during the day.
      
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      - Aewe101
        
        11 years ago
        
        Ohh well yeah I mean I'm not trying to be with a older guy right now ill wait till 18 so that way there's no problems... also I don't plan on going home with them... I never followed a guy home before I only did because he lives so close to me so I was curious, I also have a thing for my music teacher he 30 and let's just say I would have no problem seeing him after school ;) , but he has a wife and a new born baby so he's off the market •_• , I honestly hope I'm not come in off as a stupid sluty girl who just likes to be with older men. It's not like that its just if I ever get into a relationship with someone I want them to be older, you get me? :)
        
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        lufa
        
        11 years ago
        
        Ya it just depends on the age of consent, here in Canada it's 16, for me as long as it's legal I'm fine with it-but 18 is a good age too since then you're officially an adult.
        
        Haha, no worries-I totally get you. Men are like wine, we definitely do get better with age. I was a goofball in my 20s but so much wiser now that I'm 40.
        
        And no I certainly don't consider it slutty, I think you're a girl who knows what she wants. I also think nature intended for younger women to hook up with older guys since they are more established, mature, settled and of course experienced in their lives.
        
        It's funny I was thinking about dating girls in the 25-35 yr old range, but now you have me considering dating 18 yr olds. *grin*
        
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ThousandPoundsOfGanja

10 years ago

I thought this was going to be about Trayvon Martin

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Aub

10 years ago

No I believe that is called stalking.

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handsignals

10 years ago

I think the OP is the creepy old dude, let's hope the girl does not exist.

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RomeoDeMontague

10 years ago

You are mentally ILL!

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SDDA

11 years ago

HAHA I don't know if the stocking him home was normal, and I wouldn't suggest ringing on his doorbell, but it's normal to be attracted to creepy men I think. It's the bad boy thing. You sort of want them to approach you, talk dirty to you, touch you inappropriately just so you can play tough or hard to get. I think it's actually nicer that way. Too many people are afraid of being creepy and strangers hardly talk to each other any-more. It's sad.

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- Avant-Garde
  
  11 years ago
  
  If she does try talking to him she needs to do it in a well populated area. That way, if anything goes wrong there will be plenty of witnesses. She definitely shouldn't tell him that she's been stalking him. O_O
  
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