Is it normal to go out with...?

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I've never had many friends and my parents have always worried about me. I have a few. I recently got to know someone a lad through where my brother worked. I knew he was married and his wife was okay with it all. I don't like him that way. I met him and his wife and I got on well with them. But it's always him who asks me over or talks obviously it's okay with her it's not like people who would assume we are up to something.

They have both invited me over to there house tonight for a take away. But somehow it feels wrong.
Because I can see how it would look to others with me never having had a boyfriend
But I'm just happy to have friends.
Don't get me started on my parents. I don't think they think the idea of me going to hang out with a married couple they're 25-26 is right.

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  • tittle
    7 years ago

    Some things just *aren't* they way they might appear. And imo, you shouldn't let perceptions dictate your life, for the most part.
    If it turns out the couple have other intentions, then cross that bridge when you come to it, there's no reason for anything to be weird. No love lost, in other words.
    More likely, it's completely kosher. You need friends, as do they, you'll all have a good time. End of story.
    Either way, it's all good.

    Lots of times, situations sound a certain way to people, but if those people were actually there and knew everyone, they'd realise it was all totally normal.
    just my opinion.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I told my mum and she said 'just you three? Can she invite her other friends?' But I wouldn't like that. I like small groups. They just think the man could be after me or something 'may' happen. I'm not even attracted to him. I like them both as friends. He shows her all our messages not that it's anything bad but because they're married.

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      • tittle
        7 years ago

        I actually have a similar situation myself, so yeah..I can relate a lot to this.
        I mean... you don't want people to start making up rumours or assuming anything weird. But at the same time, there's nothing wrong with it! So, you should be able to just hang out and enjoy yourself.
        Guess it's just walking the line between those things.

        Make sure your parents realise that *they're the only ones who think there's anything strange about it* - like, it's their weirdness, not yours.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          Thanks :)'

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  • felixy
    7 years ago

    You're definitely still a teenager if you oversexualize every potential encounter, but it's more likely the couple just feels sorry for you. Stop worrying about how the situation appears to others, just use your head, use common sense, and socialize.

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  • Murun
    7 years ago

    It sounds like there's no problem apart from your overprotective parents. I had friends of various ages, single people, couples and all sorts from my mid teens onwards, based on whatever mutual interest or situation had thrown us together. It's healthy to know people in various situations and age groups other than your own. Modern society seems very paranoid about there being sexual motives for everything!

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  • peterrabbyt3
    7 years ago

    Maybe you take it up the arse and his wife doesn't.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Sounds reasonably normal as long as they're not trying to get weird with you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      No not at all. I just have in my head that to others specially parents cause I don't have anyone or been with anyone then going to a married couples house is weird. Specially when I'm friends with the man

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago

        I see your point, but try not to let it bother you too much as long as neither of you are inappropriate toward one another.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          We aren't. My parents are just difficult

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          • RoseIsabella
            7 years ago

            Mine were difficult too. Now that I'm freaking 47 years old I do kinda understand that they were trying to look out for me, but the way they expressed it was cringe worthy and always left me feeling awkward

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