Is it normal to hate my dog (and husband)?

I would like to explain that I have grew up with animals, mainly dogs. I was the total weirdo rescuing animals, sneaking them in my room and fixing them up. Which caused my family a lot of grief.

I received my 1st dog when I was 6 years old and have always had a doginto my adult like. I have fostered dogs , as well as adopted and helped rehabilitation for animals. I am no expert but I know plenty enough.

My husband thought it would be a good idea on getting a dog. He has had his heart settled on a corgi and I was not very happy about it. I didn't know anything about corgis and once reading up on the animal, I didn't think it would be good for our lifestyle. Besides the health problems the dog will have (later in life) and the constant exercise and other things, didn't believe it was good. He only researched the "good things" about the animal. How it "won't grow that big" and how "low mentaince" it is. "The Queen has this dog" he says. I explained th bad things about the dog and he was insistent this is the best dog.

I come home to this fucking thing. Like, lie to you not. I could IMMEDIATELY tell something was fucked with this dog. You can look in the eyes and know the dog is screwed up. 4 months when he bought her home. Small thing. Anyway, he asks me to train her and help him train her. Like any other dog I have bought home, I had a very vigorous and strict training with her. She was doing awesome but wouldn't listen to him. If I stayed home or even left her for several hours out of her cage, she wouldn't touch anything. Wouldn't bite or chew anything that wasn't hers. When he was home, 10 minutes gone (when he left her out) house cometary destroyed. Poop and pee everywhere, constantly barking etc.

His "1 dog pet owner expert" of a friend says that I was being "mean" to her, which is why the dog listened to me more than her. Never hit the dog or anything. I just had a constant positive reinforcement methods and I did speak "mean" when training her. Now he asked me to stop training her and he will. Never happened. He just sits on Facebook or go golfing before going to work. He is a chef who works long hours. Because he yells at me in front of the dog about being mean to the dog and not considering the dogs feelings when she destroys my shit because he always defends her, I have grown to really hate them both. I wonder if I am over-reacting or am I in my rights to dislike them? Is it normal?