Is it normal to have extreme mood swings in my relationships

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The closer a relationship, the more dramatic the change. The closest and most concerning of all is my boyfriend; either I am completely head over heels, wanting to spend every minute with him and adoring him or I'm closed off, sensitive to every quality of the relationship I don't like and really considering breaking up. (these negative qualities aren't anything abusive, more aspects of his personality that I would pay no attention to in a good mood)
Of course, I always hide these negative emotions, because I know I'll lose them in a matter of days or hours, even, and I'm often in a positive swing. Even this positive is exhausting; I'm so depressed when he's not around and excitable when he's with me.
There's no in-between, and this has also been happening to a lesser degree with my closest friends.

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  • ellnell
    2 years ago

    I recognize myself in this.
    As an introvert I just see it as me needing to withdraw and charge my batteries, and if I can't I get pissed and start overreacting to things because i'm drained and can't handle things well.

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  • AmourPropre
    2 years ago

    I sometimes find myself like this with people I’m extremely close to and I think sometimes it could be because I’ve created an idea of what the person or the relationship should be like in my head and when they don’t live up to it I almost feel a bit betrayed. It’s helpful for me to remind myself that they are their own person and they will make mistakes or just do their own thing even when I don’t agree with it and that’s ok.

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    • katebushkush
      2 years ago

      that's true. I think I need to work a bit on sorting out what I do and don't want in my relationships and figuring out a baseline for my mood :)

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  • Tommythecaty
    2 years ago

    Sounds a bit bpd like.

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    • katebushkush
      2 years ago

      That hadn't crossed my mind. I've been through quite a bit of trauma in my life and relationships so its not entirely impossible.

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      • Tommythecaty
        2 years ago

        Yeah, I mean a doctor would know better than any of us about it. But it does sound quite similar to a lot of the disorder.

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